r/cosleeping

My son is 5 months old and we have been cosleeping for about a month now. I do all of the night wakings and it got to be too much getting him to sleep, putting him in the crib, him waking up 20 min later and repeating all night then going to work (I’m a 2nd grade teacher) so I decided to give cosleeping a try and I LOVE it. I love seeing his little face before I go to sleep and when I wake up especially since I work full time and feel like I miss a lot of his life.

My husband has been sleeping on the couch because he does not feel comfortable bed sharing which I understand. I have offered to buy another mattress and put it in the nursery and sleep in there with the baby while my husband sleeps in our bed. To be honest I think he should ✨stfu✨ and be thankful that I do and have always done every night and I also do everything during the day. He works and comes home. I work and I work.

He is wanting to do cry it out and get our baby back in his own room so he and I can sleep in the same bed again. He misses connecting with me and intimacy which has been hard to achieve since baby will not sleep in that crib ever. Daytime naps usually happen in my arms.

He says it’s only two days of crying and then it’s over and it doesn’t do any harm, but my mom heart cannot take letting him cry like that. I prefer to soothe him when he cries and am not big on letting him cry himself to sleep.

Anybody have any good articles of information regarding the negatives of cry it out? Or am I wrong here and should sleep train?

Update: Thank you all for the support and validation! I am going to continue cosleeping with my son until he shows signs of no longer needing me to sleep soundly. My husband has accepted the fact that I will not allow cry it out and in a few months we will revisit the possibility of transitioning him back to the crib; but I will only do it when I feel baby is ready. As far as the marriage goes, idk but my baby will always come first!

I love cosleeping worth our 7 month old.
It’s so convenient with the BF and with a baby who loves to suckle for comfort but my back and shoulders and arms are all aching. We only have a double bed and I guess the bigger LO gets the more awkward will be. My husband is already nearly hanging off the bed but we like to sleep together so him moving to the spare room isn’t really an option. We’ve said we will start saving up for a King or even superking but it’s ironic because our current bed is new … bought it about 5 months before I was pregnant

I always said we could cosleep until LO can understand ‘this is your big boy room’ sort of thing but lots of people have said it becomes harder to get their child into their own space the older they get. I guess because they can keep coming in etc. Is this true? If you skipped the cot stage entirely , when did you LO sleep in their own space?

To me it feels wrong to discipline a child just because they can’t sleep in their own room… I guess just having a bigger bed would solve the issue of aches and pains

“Is baby sleeping in a bassinet or crib?”

What if I say no? Will it spark a conversation about safe cosleeping? Will more questions follow? Will I be shamed, or have to endure an attempt to convince me crib sleeping is safer? Or do they just say “ok!” and note it down?

What REALLY happens at the doctor when you tell them your baby is cosleeping? I’ve been too scared to say no so I just say yes, she’s crib sleeping. Obviously you should always be honest with doctors, so am I the only one not being honest about this? Some advice/experience please! 🩷

My baby is 7mo and has always done better with a later bedtime. She’s been sleeping 9pm-8am recently and I realized something that I kind of love about this!

I usually don’t get much evening time but I like to go to bed early anyways. Since she sleeps till 8am - I can either sleep in with her if we had a rougher night, or if we slept well I’ll wake up at 6am and get potentially a full two hours of quiet alone time in the morning.

I kind of love this set up because if she woke up earlier I would never have the option to sleep in. Just sharing this perk for those that might be frustrated about not having as much evening time!

My almost 6 week old son is peeing on our bed almost 2-3 times a night. Yes, I’ve tried 7 different diaper brands, yes I point his penis down when diapering. I diaper him every time we wake you up feed, nonetheless, there’s so much pee everywhere. What is safer?? Plastic mattress cover? Puppy pads? Towels? Stressing over the least suffocation risk. My son is also a side sleeper naturally, so I worry more about his airways getting blocked than I would if he slept exclusively on his back.

I have been cosleeping with my LO since 4 months and I absolutely love it. However she is now 10 months old and my partner and I would like to be intimate again. How do you find time to be intimate as a cosleeping family?