u/caring2muchabtthis

I’ve got a 2-week old and a toddler who just turned 2 earlier this month. We intended to all sleep in the same bed but my toddler would NOT sleep in my husband’s arms if I was right there at night so he and my husband are currently sleeping in my toddler’s room at night. I’m cosleeping in our master bedroom alone with the newborn.

However, I’m doing nap time at the middle of the day with both kids. My sister is helping right now so she can grab my newborn is he gets fussy in the nap time bassinet in our room while I cuddle with the toddler to sleep for his nap, but I’m worried about when she leaves. Ideally I’d like to all lay down for a nap and then slip out with my newborn after the toddler falls asleep, but I don’t think my toddler will appreciate it… he likes to be snuggled on my chest with hands in my armpits. I’m also worried about seeing my newborn cry in our bedroom while I’m putting toddler down for a nap once my sister is gone and I’m at the mercy of how quickly my toddler settles down before I can go get my newborn.

Anyone have a genius idea that worked for them? Looking to maybe try a few different things to see what the right fit for us will be especially once my help goes away.

27 weeks pregnant with baby #2. My 21 month old weaned 2.5 weeks ago pretty much on his own. The following week was lovely. We snuggled, read a book, and he fell asleep quickly in my arms. No fuss! I was excited because I could get a small break in nursing before starting with baby #2 and would feel better about leaving him overnight with my mom when I give birth since he won’t need boob. We cosleep, and plan to continue after new baby comes.

The last 10 nights he has suddenly hated bedtime. Avoiding sleep, insisting on reading books over and over, does NOT want the light turned off, needs a bedtime snack, some cows milk, water (even though he’s not actually hungry) etc etc until he’s overtired. He also suddenly needs to be rocked to sleep. I’ve had to rock him to sleep in the garage for two naps. He wanted to be in the garage. Every night is a crying, screaming meltdown while I try to help him through and rock him to sleep with my pregnant belly and aching back. I’m going crazy. My husband has been out of town for 2 weeks while this new phase has started.

I’m so close to just whipping the boob back out to see if it fixes all of this because tbh, 5 mins at noon and 5 mins at night of nursing was WAY better than whatever this is. It’s making me anxious and stressed.

Did anyone else go through something like this? Did you persevere and push through bedtime meltdowns or did you crack and start nursing again just to end up nursing both your toddler and your newborn? Help help help. I’m not sure how to proceed.