u/HeronNo1771

I’m 19 and my gf is 20. You can call me Fox. My girlfriend is amazing. She’s sweet, she’s kind, and I truly love her. We’ve been dating since September of 2025 and things were really good. But for awhile now, I’ve been feeling weird. When we first started dating I never thought I could be autistic. But for awhile now, many things about me, including lots from my childhood, have made me feel like I might align with being autistic. I need a lot of communication and I need space lots, but I also love her and want to be around her lots. But we have tons of miscommunication on small issues and whenever I try to fix them it never seems like that works, and then I end up feeling confused and like my needs aren’t met. I’ve been feeling like I’m walking on eggshells around her because I never know when she’ll come to me with more things that she isn’t happy about, and it’s not that I don’t want to help her, but I never see these things coming and I never know how to fix them because it feels like she never really listens. For example, I told her I didn’t know if I always wanted to sleep in the same room as an adult because I really needed space to recharge, and she took it as something totally different and I feel like I can’t come to her about things that I need anymore. I told her all of this but I still don’t feel much different. Her response was so sweet and caring but I just feel like something is missing. I’m so hesitant to leave because she once told me that she thinks I’d never leave her and that I’d never do anything to hurt her. This will break her heart, and I just don’t know what to do. Is it selfish? She’s not really a bad girlfriend. I just feel unfulfilled and so misunderstood. I know my support needs and I just don’t know if I’m getting them. It feels like I’m always unheard and no matter how many times I go to her and tell her nothing really changes. I feel like this will break her heart, I mean obviously, but I just feel bad. Am I really doing the right thing leaving?