I’ve fallen out of love with my toddler’s dad and don’t know how to move forward
As the title says, I’ve fallen out of love with the father of my child. Our story is admittedly one that makes this development not a super big shock. When we first met I was 26 and knew I wanted a baby before I was 30. He was 32 and was also at a time in his life where he really wanted to become a dad. I moved my life 3 hours away to live with him and by the second year of our relationship, I was pregnant. We now have a 2 year old who is the absolute light of both of our lives. He is an amazing dad and I’m so happy that he’s the dad to MY kid! That said.. I have zero desire to be romantic or intimate with him anymore. I feel a lot of resentment toward him for various reasons that don’t directly involve our daughter and that I don’t feel are important information for this post because I feel pretty resolved in this realization and don’t think I want to work it out. I’m really sad about it, but I simply am not in love with him anymore and am worried that the longer I wait to tell him, the more resentment will build, and the more it will negatively effect our daughter. Also.. he is a major lover boy and he wants to be madly in love and I want him to have that!
SO.. my questions for all you co parents out there.. how did you tell your co parent you didn’t want to be together anymore? I know he is going to be crushed by this and I want to be as respectful and thoughtful as possible because I do objectively love this man. My hope is that we can be the type of co parents who still spend a lot of time together as a family. I just.… need my own space. Any advice is welcome.