u/HeyYouNoNotYou_

hello guys, na konja varushama train pannittu varen. Few years ah lot of ppl have been suggesting me to start posting fitness influencing content. Earlier i had no interest but recently i felt like why cant i try. But at the same time i really didnt like the way female influencers have been getting treated in social platforms especially with our indian male audience. Im not blaming all men, there are many men who are supportive towards supporting and encouraging female strength and fitness and i myself wouldn’t have build this physique without a man in my life im beyond grateful for all those. But you know the reality, most men only see you as an object.

Example is one influencer who is well popular in tamil female fitness community (k****s***), it really upsets me whenever i open her comment section. Not just her but many. Looking at all these, it bugs me if its really worth it knowing the consequences. I do agree there are many women just posts to fish for validation with no physique or anything just in the name of fitness/gym content they expose themselves and gain followers (im not a pick me here trying to put down other women to praise myself or smtg, im just being brutally real with this one) I have zero interest to follow that lane.

I have went through so many shit in my life. I have been bullied my entire life. Ive been called fat, gigantic, giant by my teachers, friends and boys at school. I went into depression for years, i have even thought about taking my life over this, i really hated every inch of my body. You wont even believe me for this but ive went weeks without even looking at myself in the mirror, i stopped combing my hair and washing my hair and faced hair loss due to that. I fought with my parents every day blaming them for this genetics and thought id never even find love in life. Every time i sat on my sofa i hated how tight it fit me, i stopped taking pictures and always hide in group photos praying no one else to even have a glimpse of me in their phones.

All these changed now just because of a fucking habit i sticked on to. Gym really saved my life guys i really mean it. I dont know how to even express my gratitude but the gym is like a temple to me. In my whole life i never actually spent much time and energy expect this. It was my mom and sister who dragged me to gym after covid lockdown i really joined unwillingly as i dont like ppl watching me. Now after years i feel like this is where i belong and i got nowhere to go apart from here. Gym fucking changed my whole life in a blink. Tbh i wont say my life became all sunshines and rainbows suddenly as i became fit, lean and muscular. I lost all my friends as we dont share same goals on life anymore.

But i still think im grateful for this transformation. The girl who hated every inch of her body now loves to look at herself every fucking second and strives hard to push more and perform better. Ennala olunga oru object ah tight ah kuda pudikka mudiyathu ithukku munnadi, now i can do pushups with perfect form and on my way to unlock pullups very soon. I realised it was never my genetics at fault. It was just the lifestyle. I have inspired so many women around me already to chase their true potentials, i do wish to do same online. I know how hard it is for women to build strength and physique with less testosterone and balancing hormones being a woman myself.

Do u think its worth for me to start influencing online or id leave it behind for the better? I do appreciate genuine advice.

This is actually my second post here, very sorry for the long post, i guess i got little too emotional writing here.

hi all, i’ve been lifting for 3 years now. Im 5’8 and BW is 65 kgs. I feel I have built no muscle on my glutes and hams except losing some fat in these 3 years.
I eat around 2100 for maintainence.I’m not sure if its too less for my goals? I grew up fat and struggled to cut down those so unconsciously I’m fearing the bulk even though i have clear intent to grow.
I also have anterior pelvic tilt. I always find it uncomfortable to even stand straight and i got weak core too which kinda make me injure when i go heavier with RDLs and hip thrusts and back squats. I dream of competing someday in life. Any advice for me <3

hey guys, just wanted to share my lil progress with yall. I’ve always been fat all my life. I’ve been bullied and bodyshamed all my life for being too tall and fat as a woman (even by my own family), was called “Gigantic” and many things. Stress Eating was my only coping mechanism, even though I knew well that its what making me more fatter. I really hated myself and every inch of my body. Trust me I’ve went for weeks without even looking at myself in the mirror. I used to fear taking pictures because I knew id look chopped in every angle. It took away my confidence totally.

Then one fine day in 2023 my lil sister dragged me to a small women’s gym nearby. And I was so scared and ashamed to even go. I legit have no athletic background. I dont even play badmitton, dance or even just get up and do any physical activity, id call it low self esteem more than just being lazy. I just wanted to stay hidden all my life not liking the way I look. But she somehow convinced me and took me to the gym and still it did no help, it was a small ladies gym at small town, they trained you to lowkey starve yourself and do lot of cardio and barely touch any weights saying you will become manly (classic myth lmfao). But I still gave my best and then I relocated to a metro city and I had nothing to do aside work and i found a gym next to my PG, so i decided to go.

And it was the life changing decision for me ngl. The same girl who feared to even show up infront of people now became the confident person in life. The same girl who feared to even go shopping and gets depressed to watch herself not fit into any of the clothes is now fitting herself into everything like a mannequin. The same girl who feared cameras now look good in every angles and in group pictures. The same girl who didn’t even wanna look at herself into the mirror for even 5 sec is now tracking her each progress and even calculating ratios and symmetry to step into natural competitive bodybuilding stages in few years.

All I did was trying and stayed consistent with a new routine. Nothing more nothing less. The end goal to me was never my physique, it was an add-on tbh. The real transformation was who I’ve become in this process. Gym gave me a whole new way of living, and looking into my life. It gave me the confidence and self respect and the love for myself which i never had before.

Sorry for such a long ass post. I hope it may encourage some of you to just start instead of having second thoughts or doubting yourself <3

hey guys, just sharing my progress here. Im not sure if this is a good progress but I’d wanna share something. A year ago I felt helpless. Ive been losing my hair since my puberty ever since i turned 15, even though i knew i have AGA i couldnt help myself for around 11 years as every dermatologist in my town were scamming me and I was severely depressed watching my hair fall every day all these years. I finally decided to hop on minox from last year finding a good derm and now when i look back i really feel happy that I did took some action to take care of myself and did not give up on myself. Idk if I’ll grow my hair any fuller but I just know I wont give up on myself <3