No Contact
My (avoidant) boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me (anxious) about 3 weeks ago. The breakup came out of nowhere—he told me he loved me the night prior, we got into an argument the next morning that I still believe we could’ve recovered from, and then he told me it wasn’t working out. I was completely blindsided.
When he broke up with me, he immediately unfriended me on all social media. A little bit later he blocked me on Instagram, and just recently blocked me on TikTok. But before blocking me on TikTok, he sent me a random video which I didn’t respond to (read receipts turned off). Also, before blocking me on TikTok, he was reposting videos and commenting about our relationship. He also added a song to our shared playlist—it was a very malicious song.
All while I’ve been completely silent. Truly going no contact. I logged out of Snapchat, Instagram, and TikTok the day we broke up so I wouldn’t be tempted to look at his accounts or interact with him in any way. Only way I knew he blocked me on the two accounts/sent me a video/reposting about our relationship was because I randomly logged into both, looked at my messages because I had some from other people and saw “No User Found”, and I was scrolling through my “For You” page where his reposts appeared. I never visited his profiles. I haven’t even attempted to text or call him.
I’ve been turning all of the attention to myself and my healing. So far, through my healing journey, I’m able to take accountability (not directly to him) for the things that I did that could’ve caused a change in our relationship. I’m continuing my healing journey, focusing on myself, and focused on becoming a better, healthier person.
My question is, why would he be exhibiting that behavior, and then decide to block me out of nowhere when I’ve literally made zero attempts to reach out to him?