Spinomon line with my custom Tyranomon evo: FossilTyranomon. Its clad in the fossilized remains of Dinorexmon. I prowls the forest for digimon to battle, trying to become an apex predator. I wanted something that felt more organic compared to other Tyranomon evos. I drew FossilTyranomon myself.
Were we Dating or Hooking Up?
Recently I was in a situation where the lines became blurred and regardless of how the person describes it or feels my perception is flat out wrong, I feel I need an outside point of view on what we were doing. "Dating" its self is less black and white in my opinion based purely on the fact that its, for all intents and purposes, a spoken word agreement.
So, for context:
Me (30 Male) them (25FtM Trans)
A once good friend of mine and I began a casual situation back in October. Everything was very non descript and more of going with the flow. In their eyes, we were "hooking up". Our first hangout was simple, a movie on my couch. At this point in time I wasnt even sure it was anything more than a friend thing until they reached over and held my hand. We chatted a bit and agreed to just go with the flow and keep things quiet from our group.
Our third hangout was an actual date. They even dressed up and wore make up (something they never do), we went for sushi and came back to my house for quality time. The next few times were movie theater dates and time at my house with a dinner or two in there.
The part that changes things in my eyes were the things in between. We'd see each other once a week atleast every week. When they were at my house they'd often cradle my face in their hand and call me pretty then kiss every knuckle on my hand. We'd have long intimate talks about our lives and ambitions, we had a large amount in common. We'd talked about it and decided to keep our thing exclusive. When we weren't able to see each other for more than 2 days They'd text saying they missed me. They said they wanted to go on "cute dates and hold my hand walking around stores" and make playlists fir one another. It was easily the most natural feeling compatibility ive ever felt in my life, so naturally I began to fall in love.
As we approached valentine's day, I made them a card and bought them a gift not really expecting anything in return. I chose not to confess or anything then but was making moves to ease into asking if they'd like to become more official. The day I finally gave them these things, February 28th, was the last day We'd spend together. 48 hours later they broke things off via text, telling me "we're not long term compatible" and that the "blurred romantic lines" weren't what they wanted...But the thing is, I didnt make them do any of that. It was always their decision and we carried on like that for 5ish months.
In attempt to navigate our transition to friends, I confided in a couple mutual friends, one of whom told them to their face what id said....they contacted me about breaking their trust but they ultimately seemed more upset at the idea that I said what we did was "dating" not "hooking up". I conveyed the idea that what we did falls more in the realm of "casually dating" at the least and was met with frustration.
My question is: With context, am I wrong for thinking we were dating? According to them id "clearly misread" the situation but had I? Was i in the wrong for thinking they may have wanted something more?