First time moving out despite parent wishes - advice needed
hey everyone, i (21F) just graduated college a couple days ago. my parents and i have been fighting and arguing pretty badly this year to the point where i feel my best course of action is to leave and move out; especially if i want to rebuild a relationship with them. i signed a lease in-state pretty recently without letting my parents know until i signed it. i think it’s adequate, but we all had a conversation about it and they’re pretty upset. despite being kicked out a few times and taken back in, being told to find other arrangements if i get home past midnight, and even being confronted by my father on graduation where he said “you need to come back home so we can talk about you getting out of here”; they were hurt and upset by this decision. they claimed that they intended for me to stay with them and build up some finances, pay off debts, and leave with better assets in order. they kept constantly saying “this is not what we had planned for you, but we wish you the best.”
the conversation that followed gave me a lot of doubt and i feel i made a terrible decision. they kept saying how i messed up my finances and future, and how they can guarantee i’m not prepared and that there will be times where i can’t pay the bills adequately. emphasized how I’ll be living paycheck to paycheck and i will save nothing for myself. on top of that they gave me till the end of June before they kick me off the family phone plan “since i want to act like an adult”, so that’s another bill im worried about.
i say all this to say, i would really appreciate some advice/perspective on how to navigate this. i feel i can no longer depend on my parents for support and help regarding this; and i don’t know if what i did is the right thing. this has made me pretty scared moving forward and if anyone has any similar stories/circumstances and how they got through it, i would greatly appreciate it. especially with budgeting and saving.
further context to help maybe: the bright side is i still have a job above national US minimum wage, have about 4.5K saved, an awesome roommate, and a decent support system otherwise. i’m worried this isn’t enough, especially since i have credit card debt + student loans, and one of my goals was to start saving and investing.
EDITS: spelling, grammar