r/movingout

I am new to reddit and joined to share this story so please excuse me if my writing is not how it should be.

I female 22 have lived with my sister who is 14 years older than me for 8 years now. I moved in with her in high school because my parents moved around a lot because of my dad's job and they did not want to keep up rooting me.

After high school I continued living with my sister as it just worked out. She had my niece and at the time I was unemployed so she asked me if I would be willing to help look after my niece when she started working again and she payed me a salary to do so.

It worked so well as I literally lived with them and had such a great bond with my niece. I've been looking after her for almost 2 years now.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years now and he recently move 2 hours away as he got a better job and opportunity.

We agreed that I would move in with him when he's settled in and know for a fact the job is for him.

He's been working for 8 months now and we are both ready for me to move up and start my life there too.

I am ready and excited to move but I have such a strong connection with my niece that I honestly don't know how I'll be able to move away from her and not see her everyday. My mom and granny also live in the same town and I'm so used to being able to see them whenever I can.

The idea of being so far from my family makes me sad.

Then there is another problem. I honestly don't know what my sister is going to do with my niece when I move as we live in a very small town and there really aren't really many day cares. There is one proper one but it's very expensive. I honestly don't want to put my sister in a difficult position by leaving.

I have not spoken to her yet as I don't know how to approach the topic. I know her by now and she will tell me that she'll be okay even if she is not.

I feel extremely selfish for wanting to leave and I really don't know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do about my niece and if I do move how to physically deal with being so far away from my loved ones?

So an online friend of mine has been planning a big move from Illinois to Texas and would love to hear from anyone who has done a similar long distance move.

He has looked into two companies so far, Coffey Bros. Moving and Two Men and a Truck, and he has spoken with both. So far, he feels more comfortable with Coffey Bros, since they are the usual for his dad.

Since he has a lot of belongings, this will be a fairly big move, so he wants to make sure he chooses the right company.

Has anyone here used either of these companies for a long-distance move? I’d also appreciate recommendations for other reliable movers along with any tips for making the move more affordable and stress-free.

Thanks in advance, hopefully reddit will solve this one

i have a lot of stuff that i barely use but keep because i might need it someday. moving is making me realize how much unnecessary stuff i've accumulated. how did you decide what to take and what to leave behind?

Earlier this summer, I signed a lease for a shared apartment (I'd have my own room but shared bathroom/living spaces) that is $375.50 each month.
My total expenses after utilities and WiFi are $453.75. There's a shuttle near the place that could take me right to school, and I'd have to take the bus and Ubers to/from work, which is fine. I have two jobs but one is seasonal during the school year and the the other one is retail and I've saved up 6k in five months in preparation for moving out.

I make about $1.2k (sometimes more) a month with the second job included. But I feel so guilty at the prospect of me leaving that I think I'll use some of my savings for my tuition since my parents have paid it for the past two years. I pay my own car insurance (repairs as well) and credit card bill and never ever ask my parents for money because it feels wrong. I don’t think I’d be able to take my car as it’s in my dad’s name and he paid for most of it while I paid for 2.5k for it which was all the savings I had at the time that we bought it. I’d also just feel wrong taking it.

I've been paying rent in secret over the summer because I'm too scared to tell my parents. They are extremely against the idea and think it is the stupidest thing I could do at my age (20) and also being a junior in college. They only want me to move out post-grad but even then I doubt it. I think they'd only allow me to once I get a job offer out of state. They think it's more worth it for me to save up for a down payment on a house, but with the way the economy is looking it doesn't seem feasible. And I don't wanna live in my state forever, and I definitely don't wanna live in the U.S. long term.

My mom thinks people who move out young are stupid and that they'll never be able to retire and I feel guilty because they're already going through so many things and me leaving would be the cherry on top. One of our family friend’s daughters (she graduated a year ago and has a full time job) recently moved out of her mom’s house to live with her friends and my mom brings her up frequently to call her dumb and compare her to our other family friend’s son (also postgrad full time worker) who she believes is smarter because he’s staying with his mom and investing. She says she could be investing the $1.5k she pays in rent instead of making someone else richer. I told my mom that just because someone is doing something you don’t want them to do doesn’t mean that they’re dumb and she mocked me.

I don't think it'd be fair/even possible for me to try to get out of the lease because it's year long and I don't wanna disappoint my roommates. It makes me sad to think of returning my key. Also in June, I went over there to drop off some clothes and books. School starts next week and I feel so torn with a quarter of my closet not with me. My whole life I have put my parents first and I’ve been a pacifist to the point of hurting myself. My mental health is in shambles and I’m at my wits end. They also think that it’s impossible to save money if you’re not living in your parent’s house.

The other night my mom brought up how I used to talk about moving out and said “how would you feel if you moved out knowing we’re still paying for the mortgage on the house” which just felt so weird. She expected me to feel wrong about leaving, but I truly felt nothing when she said that. What does her mortgage have to do with me? I was nine years old when we moved to this house. She’s still gonna need a house for our family regardless of me living in it😭

I just feel so guilt ridden, and she knows she’d never ask me for money to help pay for bills. They’d rather me stay home and invest so I can be a millionaire at 59, but I doubt I’ll be alive by then and I’d rather have that money now as immature and childish as that sounds. I just don’t know what to do. I also feel crazy because we fight less but I’m still depressed all the time. My family isn’t the healthiest, mentally speaking. And they just walk around enabling and triggering each other and I feel so stuck. And I don’t mean that in a rude way, I observe them and feel sad because their behavior isn’t normal.

A few months ago, living here was hell but now it’s manageable but it still hurts. Especially lately that I realized we all have our own mental issues that we refuse to acknowledge. It feels like healing will never be in the picture for me. Every time I think about it I feel suicidal. I know my parents would never let it go if I did leave, they’re the type to never get over anything. Please someone give me advice or tell me your success story especially if you had strict parents. I would also appreciate if nobody insulted my parents in the replies. Thank you.

I'm 16 and living in a toxic home environment that has involved serious threats, so I'm trying to figure out my options for finding a safer place to live. I have a stable job and steady income, but I'm worried about finding a roommate online because I'm still a minor.

I'm not looking to impulsively move in with a random stranger. I want to do this safely. Has anyone been in a similar situation, especially in Ontario/Canada? How can I safely vet potential roommates, and are there better options than sites like Roomies for someone my age? What red flags should I look out for?

hey guys can i get some tips on how i can move within 2 years i’m planning on taking a gap year and work during that year after college and then going university if anyone’s done this can i get some advice. I’m scared but i need to move so that i can actually live, staying here is suffering by choice at this point please help anything works any advice😭

Help me out and the sub here 🤞

Im a 17 yr old college freshman. I graduated HS in May and jumped straight into going to college. I even have a dorm, a meal plan, and roommates. I hate it. I hate it here. I hate the work. I hate the classes. They dont even have the major I want, and I’m just overall stressed out. Mind you I’ve only spent one day here. I’ve only gone to half of my classes. I keep crying and thinking about home, and how i could be with my family instead of all alone with nothing and no one.

I dont have a job, dont have allowance, shit i aint even got a dollar. I owe $1,717 as of September 10th and i have to keep paying that same amount every month. With no job, or allowance, or money. Yeah no I’m fucked and I want to quit. I have until the 21st of august to drop out without any charges made to my account.

Should I drop out, get yelled at by my sister (guardian) for fighting so hard to go to college, just to drop out and work for a year or two, get my ID, Drivers License, make a bank account, and get a taste of Adulthood. Or stay in college, get riddled with debt, not make any friends, suffer, be depressed and broke and incapable to do anything about it and watch my family move away without me bc they are moving.

Orrrr again just stay with my family and stay happy? Like i know everyone gets home sick that first week but, i genuinely don’t think I will last here. If i start college right now I will fail. I don’t know enough about the world yet and if i’m being completely honest I just genuinely don’t think i’m ready. Maybe in like 2 years but definitely not now.

My sister is a pretty strict lady and she was already really upset about me applying to college without telling her and now i wanna turn back around and quit?? Please someone help!!! Do i just sound like a dumb kid who should stay because everyone goes through this? Or should I go? Because i really really really wanna go home..

(P.s. is this too wordy? I really need help.. and no one is responding yet..)

EDIT: I spoke to my HS teacher that helped me get to this point, and she has convinced me to keep going to school. Thank you to whoever actually intended to help me with your comments.

Hello movingout redditors, I am a 19m and I just paid my deposit on my apartment and I should be getting the keys this Friday.

I’m reaching out to see what some recommended order of operations you guys have used to transition easier. I don’t have a lot of stuff and it’s just a studio because that’s all I need but I’m just a big freak when trying to maximize efficiency and order.

As of right now I think I start going through my stuff at my current residence, and tossing what ever I don’t need and boxing what I do need. After that before the actual moving I am thinking of deep cleaning the apartment and then starting the moving in process. But also I don’t know if I should get utilities setup first or what ever.

Any suggestions and pointers are greatly appreciated. If you notice any flaws that I have not listed please let me know.

I’m 25 years old and currently living with my parents and my siblings. My younger brother will be leaving to study abroad after the summer, as he does every year. My sister is starting her second year of high school, and my youngest sister is 9 years old and still in elementary school.
Both of my sisters seem to resent me. My parents physically abused me at times when I was a child, but most of the abuse was emotional. They’ve changed now and are “better,” but they don’t want to acknowledge or confront what happened in the past.
They treat my youngest sister with a lot of affection, while she sees me almost like a monster. She doesn’t show me much affection and seems to see me as the bad guy whenever I lose my temper over something.
I’m aware that I shouldn’t complain while I’m living under their roof, but at the same time, they didn’t really support me emotionally while I was growing up. I guess I live with them, but I’m essentially responsible for myself.
I have a work contract that has been renewed until December, and I could support myself financially. The problem is that I don’t know whether I’ll still have that job after December. I’ve found a room for €420 a month. I currently make €1,400 per month, paid in 15 installments per year (and potentially more if I eventually get a permanent contract).
I could afford it, but I’m very aware of what I’d be sacrificing financially, especially at this stage of my life, when investing as much as possible into index funds could make a huge difference to my future.
But at what cost?
I’m seeing a psychologist, and so far everything seems to point towards level 1 autism, possibly ADHD, and giftedness. Emotionally, I’m a mess, and I desperately need some structure that I can’t seem to find at home because there are so many people around me.
Tomorrow I have to call the person renting the room, and I don’t know whether I should tell them I want to move in. I’d have to stay for at least three months, and I’m really unsure whether I should do it.
I don’t know if it’s stupid to move into a room and spend €420 a month when my parents live in the same city.
But I want to feel like myself.
I want to be able to socialize outside without feeling completely drained from absorbing so much energy at home.
I feel like the black sheep of the family. I used to feel like everything I said made sense, until at some point they decided that living according to the “truth” wasn’t worth it and started pretending that everything was fine, when there are still so many financial and emotional issues that haven’t been dealt with at home.
I honestly don’t know what to do.
Would moving out be a stupid financial decision, or could having my own space and some distance from my family be worth the cost?

I’m 24 years old and still live with my family. I share a room, so I basically have no privacy. I also lost my car, so right now I take the bus and Uber around. Honestly, I don’t mind doing that, and when I eventually move out of state, I wouldn’t mind relying on public transportation for a while.

I live in the Northeast, btw.

My biggest problem is that every time I start saving money from a job, something goes wrong. I’ll end up unemployed for a month or two and have to use my savings to pay bills or ask a family member for money. Then I’m basically back at zero and have to start all over again.

I don’t have a degree yet, and I don’t have any certifications either. I know what I want out of life, but I feel like I’m stuck in a broke mindset. I also don’t really have any interests right now, for real. Part of me feels like maybe I’ll figure more things out once I move and actually have some independence.

I do have a job right now, and I actually love it. I was rehired at a shoe store, but it’s part-time and seasonal. My mom’s friend is also going to put me on with a public school job, so I’m hoping that could lead to something more stable.

But I actually DO know my number one goal: I want to go to esthetician school, eventually own my own business, and work for myself. That is what I really want to do. I want to build something that's mine.

Before I move out of state, I’ve also been thinking about getting a phlebotomy certification so I can hopefully make more money and save up for esthetician school. I’m wondering if that would be a smart move or if I’d just be spending money/time on something I won’t use long-term.

I’ve also been invited to stay with a friend and her family in Texas. She has a 2-year-old, and I really love being around her, so part of me would honestly love to be closer to her. But I don’t know if actually living with them would be a good fit for me, especially since I’m trying to become independent. I could see myself living in the same city or even the same apartment complex instead of necessarily moving in with them.

And then there’s the whole question of where I should move. 😭

The places I’m considering are Philly, Charlotte, Raleigh/Cary, and Dallas/TX. I keep going back and forth because I don't want to move somewhere just because it sounds good. I want somewhere I can realistically afford, find work, eventually go to esthetician school, and actually build a life.

I’m also about $6k in debt because of a car I had to give back after I lost my job. It messed up my credit, which is another thing stressing me out. My credit is slowly improving, but I’m worried about how I’ll ever get an apartment with a bad credit score.

If I’m able to save enough, I wouldn’t mind putting down a larger security deposit if that would help me get approved. I know I’d have the discipline to keep an apartment once I actually have one. Having my own place and some independence is honestly one of my biggest goals.

I guess what I’m really looking for is advice on what order I should do all of this in.

Should I focus on getting a stable/full-time job first? Get the phlebotomy certification? Pay down the $6k debt? Save for esthetician school? Move first and figure things out there? Stay home longer and save as much as possible? Or move somewhere cheaper and work my way up?

I also struggle with motivation and my moods sometimes completely throw me off track, so I’m trying to figure out how to build actual discipline instead of constantly starting over.

If you were 24 and in my position, what would you do?

I’d especially love advice from people who have moved out on their own, rebuilt their credit, gone to esthetician school, started a beauty business, or moved to Philly, Charlotte, Raleigh/Cary, or Dallas/TX.

I know this is a lot 😂 but I feel like I’m at the point where I REALLY need to make a plan instead of just thinking about changing my life. BE REAL WITH ME PLEASE!!!!!!

I have a bit over 2k saved and wanted to move to a new state and out of my mentally harmful situation. I want a fresh start and what not and want to give myself the experience of getting far away. But I am so frozen with fear.

To move in with a roommate you dont know.

To trust they won't steal your things or hurt your pets.

To pray the room posting wasnt a scam.

All the potential conflict

And distance from all my friends

I keep thinking im dumb for wanting to move so far

Or the need for it isn't justified

But if its what I want why am I so afraid

I just need reassurance or advice or something.

Hello, my girlfriend (22f) and I (25f) have been living in Florida for quite some time together. Initially, last year, i was kicked out of my parents (mom and stepdad) place. As an impulsive decision, having nowhere else to go, I moved from living with them to being 20 minutes away from my (at the time) long distance girlfriend. And soon after that, we got jobs at the same place, and moved into the same home.

Now we are both having issues in our living spaces. Our workplace is underpaying us, our city is dangerous to live in, we both don't feel safe being members of the LGBT, even if we don't live very far from some of the biggest LGBT places you could find in Florida. But now, it's becoming too much. We're having conflicts and arguments with our roommate, and we imagine we don't want to stay here for much longer.

Now, despite what I've said earlier about impulsively moving out of my parents house, I won't be able to do that again, since when I did, I was making more money, and I was able to afford it. Even with all of this, I still don't know what I'm doing, and if I'm being honest, were it not for my girlfriend, I would've been even more upset with the location I chose on a whim.

I just want advice if I'm being honest. We want to move, and we want to do it sometime soon. I just want to know, from other's experiences, how did you find a place to live?

I used to live in NYC for a while before moving to NJ, but seeing everything with Mamdani has made me feel homesick. I'm just wondering:

- Is moving to NYC actually a good idea? Have these changes been enough to warrant an attempt to move there?

- If so, are there any areas that would be good to move to? Things like affordability, Location, Distance from work areas, if there's a lot of, or a lack of jobs, etc.

- As we are both members of the LGBT as well as both of us being women of color, are there any spaces where we can be safe?

And if you wouldn't recommend NYC,:

- Where would you move, and why?

- What places have you been where the pros outweigh the cons?

And maybe just general tips and tricks to moving out, as now, it's a different experience, since I'm bringing someone with me. It was a different experience doing it alone. I had less to carry, but less to worry about. Now, I don't know if I have to order a U-haul, it feels like noones hiring at any point right now, and I'm just generally, all around, stressed the hell out.

Please be respectful and share your experiences and wisdom below!

I've lived at home my whole life, I have around 13k in savings dedicated towards initial moving out expenses/having 6 months living expenses and I plan to keep growing it to around 20k before making a decision. I'm at a crossroads here and can't decide what's better for my financial situation/life development. Here's my thinking, if anyone has been in a similar situation and had similar considerations, please let me know what you ended up doing!

Living Alone:

-I'd be able to be more responsible for myself. And I want to live alone for once in my life to become more disciplined and independent. But I'm afraid that I won't be able to manage it and that I'll end moving back home or become homeless

-Really worried about finances. My take home is 5k, and in NJ I think I just barely make enough to have an okay living situation, but it'd be pretty precarious. I'm also afraid if I move out now, I won't be able to move upwards financially. I won't be able to save anymore, which will make it harder to eventually get a home

Living with a Roommate

-very shy, introverted, I like my home life the way it is and I think I'll struggle alot running a home with an essential stranger

-I could make some new friends and build a newer community. Living with my family takes a toll on my mental health plus I have a few friends in my current area but not a very strong community

-This roommate can/will move out within 2 years maybe. And then I'll have to play a game of finding a new roommate if I don't have a partner by then

-will make it much easier for me to save towards a home

Stay at Home

-It will make it much easier for me to save towards a home

**-**More and more arrested development/damage to my mental health with every passing day lmao. I'm from an immigrant Caribbean household.

-I'm considering taking all my moving expenses and using this as a down payment on a home in 5 years time and just owning a home myself. But, again, not sure if I'm up for owning/managing a home alone

I’m a 19-year-old UTK student in Knoxville, and I need advice on getting out of my parents’ house.
My home situation has been abusive for years. My dad was physically abusive when I was younger, my stepmom used to throw things, and she still threatens me and tells me to leave. Things have gotten bad enough that I’m being pushed out of the house.
Financially, I’m struggling. I made about $14k last year while paying for college. I had around $6.5k saved, but most went toward school. I recently bought a $3k used car because I needed transportation and still owe $500 on it. I don’t have much savings left.
My boyfriend and I are both college students and have just started serving jobs. We’re hoping to move into a cheap apartment together, but we don’t have enough saved for deposits, first month’s rent, moving costs, etc. We also have pets (I have a cockatiel, crested gecko, and jumping spider; he has a snake), which makes finding housing harder.
We’ve considered taking a ~$3–3.5k personal loan to cover moving costs and the first couple months of rent, then paying it off quickly with our serving income. I’m not sure if that’s smart or a terrible idea.
I also have to stay in school full-time while working several nights a week.
What would you do in my situation? Are there Knoxville/UTK resources for students leaving unsafe homes? Is taking a small loan to get established reasonable? How much should we have saved before signing a lease? And does anyone know of pet-friendly housing that allows reptiles/birds?
I’m trying to get out without becoming homeless, going deeply into debt, or having to drop out of college. Any advice from people who have been through something similar would mean a lot.

I havw the opportunity to move out but if i do ill have to leave my car as its under mt dads name meaning id havw to uber to work and school. If anyone has experience with doing this was it easy? Should i just wait till i have enough to buy my own car and then move out? What do i do

I, 29F have been living at my aunt's house while I finish up my medical residency. Its been 1.5 years now and I recently found a place for myself. How much days/ weeks in advance should I tell my aunt? The new place is just 10 minutes away and I can pop in anytime I want. Aunt is 76yrs btw

Hello i want to move out of my parent house when I turn 18 right now I dont have a job they made me quit but I have around 1k in savings I am going into 12th grade so when I move out i Want to switch schools and graduate but I really want to move out i have my permits but getting g them i hope before I turn 18 but after that I want to join the union and become a electrician or HVAC operater but thats after I graduate so idk what to do my grandma dont want me when I move out she thinks it is better to graduate at my parwnts first which I dont want to go to a private Christian schooli just want a public school ik this will be hard but I am willing to do anything to make this easier I have been researching how ro do most stuff but housing idk

good day!
As the title sums it up, I'd like to move out in the future. I'm 19F, not happy and a little uncomfortable living with my parents. I'm currently in the process of getting an alcohol handling certification in my province so I can have a biiit more luck with getting a job as most of them usually require it. That was on my end that I didn't think of getting that before I applied. Oops! As I'm applying little by little for other jobs with a long-term goal in my mind, I want to hear what you have did that made the move as efficient for you or if you are in that situation right now or if you have moved out multiple times already. Anything from financial, packing up, rent, and anything else you would want to give me or other people before, during and after moving.

I don't plan to move out of the province as I wanted because I'm just applying and it would be my first official job. My main focus is moving out of my parents' and after a few years I'll maybe possibly consider moving to another province when it is the time. But if you have anything to say about moving provinces/states, I'd appreciate that too and I'll take it into account if I consider it in the future as well!
I'd appreciate any input even from the smallest things, thank you!

I got a POD for my move, they were supposed to pick up my pod today because I paid extra for same day pick up. They didn't pick up my pod on the same day and told me they would pick it up the next day. I was on the phone for hours today with a POD rep and she mentioned it would be picked up tomorrow morning. The storage property I have my pod said they would tow my pod and it's not allowed to stay overnight. So I could possibly lose all my belongings because they can't follow a schedule.

I begged the property to keep my pod overnight now, and they agreed. Now at 9 PM before my move I see they moved the pick up date and time 2 days out! This is a nightmare of an experience, I really don't want to lose all my stuff and have been on the phone with PODs 4 times already and have no answers.