r/movingout

I’m 19 and currently live with my family. I could move out and rent my own place anytime — money isn’t the issue for me. What I’m actually trying to figure out is whether it’s better to stay with family a bit longer or get my own place now.

I keep going back and forth. Staying means comfort, family, less hassle. Moving out means independence, privacy, and doing everything on my own.

For those who’ve done either — which did you find better? Anything you wish you’d known before deciding?

Curious which one is better.

Is it better to get another job to help pay rent but live solo or live somewhere cheaper but with other people?

How are people affording to move out right now?!? Genuinely?!? I turned 26 2 months ago and got my masters so I’m projected to earn 85,000 once I’m promoted. Doing the math you would think more money but the additional expense of student loan payments and health insurance now that I aged out of my parents insurance and my six months deferment period adds up.

What do you guys suggest? And/or how are you guys doing it?

My parents are so toxic I want to move out but I have to save once I get my pay increase for six months to feel at least somewhat secure.

What’s the secret? What are we doing? Are we all just living paycheck to paycheck to leave our toxic households?

I’m based in Luxembourg and, I’m going to start a new job in Prague.

I’m looking for solutions to bring my suitcases with me.

It’s not a lot of stuff, but still too much to carry with me by myself.

All my stuff fits in 4/5 suitcases.

Train is not going to be possible, flying will also be almost impossible.

I’m thinking to drive there, but what are the options if I rent a car ?

I’m running out of ideas. Thanks for your suggestions.

My family is kind of toxic. I wanna be independent in the future once i graduate but I don't know where to start. My mom is ill so i moved in with my dad (they are separated but not divorced bc it's illegal to divorce in my country) so that my mom could heal stress-free. But my dad is really neglectful and sometimes i think he can be so immature. How can a guardian be so incompetent to raise their child. He has a girlfriend, and i actually like her. But she often has breakdowns and complains about my dad saying that he makes her do all the work. My dad's girlfriend is actually one of my aunt's helpers. Today she fainted from overwork, and since she didn't do anything the whole day and just rested, my aunt went to the farm (where i am currently living) drunk as hell and found out she just rested the whole day, had a massive crashout and broke stuff, yelled insults and kept saying that the workload isn't even that high. I'm so sick of my aunt's yelling. It's like she had a switch. One moment she's super nice, supporting me and my sister through school but then one day she takes out all her anger on everyone and doesn't think about others feelings. I just feel so numb in my house. I miss being able to live without walking on eggshells around her. I plan to move out so that I don't have to see them ever again, any advice?

So... As the title states, my parents want me out of the house at 18. Like immediately. I have a job, working on getting a second, and have about $3000 saved. I'll still be in school. I haven't taken a driver's ed course yet and I don't have a car anyways. Should I get a car first and live out of it for a while so I can get around easier? Or should I get a place to live because honestly I think I'm going to need a car either way. Can I get some advice in general on what to do? Not just about the living situation either but everything.

Hi, I’m curious if you think I need to move out of my parents house or if I should stay with them so I can save to buy a home.

I am 26… turning 27.

My parents have been awesome and haven’t charged me any rent. They have a very nice home and I’ve been really lucky. I have space in the home. I have a great relationship with them and love them very much.

I am dating 4 years and we live an hour from each other. We make it work but I can’t say it’s been super easy on our relationship.

At the same time. I feel like I really really really need to move out. I just feel trapped and like I can’t go be me. I can’t go take on the world yet. Like I’m being held back.

I am just so ready to move out. I love my parents and respect them and am so grateful. But I am ready.

I should only have 1-2 years left and I can buy a home.

Or I move out by November and that could be pushed back 1-3 additional years to get enough for down payment. I want to put 20% down so my payments aren’t so bad.

I'm 19, just got out of highschool last year and I recently landed a 12 month learnership with the slight possibility of landing a permanent contract at the end of it. I'm earning a stipend of R8000 p/m. I'm thinking of moving out, BADLY, and renting out a bachelor pad for R2500-R3500 p/m. I need some advice as to whether it's a good move or not, it's urgent!

I’m 27f single mom of one (6yrs) and I have been wanting to move out of my home state for years now to the point I’m willing to take a leap of faith. I really like the vibes that Austin,Texas brings with the mixture of nature and city but I’m not sure if it’s the best option yet. Personally I would love to live in California where I was born but from what I’ve seen it’s extremely expensive now. I would appreciate some advice or feedback on living in Austin as a single parent or any other areas that have similar qualities.

I (20F, soon 21) live at home with my parents and my cat. It is bearable for the most part, but my parents are toxic and my mother is sometimes physically abusive. I have very restricted freedom due to not having a license yet. I have been trying to learn driving, but we don't have the money for proper driving classes so I've been learning with my dad whenever he's free, but he leaves a lot of things out and the way he learned driving is very different from the way it is now, so I'm not confident in my skills just yet.

I have a job at a restaurant, but because I'm dependent on my parents driving me there and being free+I am usuallybusy with classes, I only work two 4 hour shifts a week (many times even less than that because my parents force me to attend events I had no prior knowledge of/no say in and force me to cancel work). I take the bus part way to my job, but even then, the closest bus stop is an hour walk away, so my parents need to drop me off at the bus stop+my dad picks me up when my shift ends because they don't want me taking the bus at night, and they want me to quit my job because of how much time it takes out of their day. I've looked into online jobs, but most of them are either scams or unsustainable as a college student.

I have no credit score because I wasn't allowed to get a credit card for religious reasons, and I have no idea how to get one on my own when I can't even drive to the bank (it might be for the best though; I have a nasty habit of going on impulsive online shopping sprees whenever I am stressed, which is often).

I don't have many real friends IRL, so there isn't really anyone I could ask for help with this. I have family, but they all live out of state and I have a feeling they would try to make me stay with my parents if they found out about my plan and possibly rat me out to them. Most of the older adults in my life would likely do the same, since most of them are friends with my parents and loyal to them; some of them even used to tattle on me when I was younger and the abuse was worse, sometimes even participating in the abuse themselves since the way they treated their kids was similar and they only saw it as discipline. I have an older brother, but he lives on the other side of the country now and his advice to me has always more or less been "keep your head down and it won't be as bad," which is true but it isn't something I can keep doing for years and years without going insane.

I just feel really lost and I don't have anyone I can look to in my own life for help or advice. What are your tips for 'adulting' that I need to know before living on my own? Do you have any free resources for things like financial literacy and the like? Do you have any recommendations for earning and saving enough money in order to be able to move out in the first place?

I have a cat too, and I want to bring her with me as well if possible, especially since she has slight separation anxiety and I don't know if my parents would be able to take care of her when I'm gone, or if they would just return her to the shelter. That being said, I don't know if it would even be possible to take me with her since she's technically my parent's property, and I don't know if I would have the time and money to take care of her on my own. I thought about waiting until she passes away to move out, but she's 5 years old so that will probably be a pretty long time.

I’m 24F, and I’ve been post grad for a while now and live with my family in a small, quiet suburb. I feel pretty isolated here. I don’t have any friends, and I don’t wear what I want because I’ll be kicked out. After quitting my last job earlier this year, I knew I wanted to move somewhere else with more freedom, flexibility, and opportunity.

Ever since then I’ve been prioritizing getting another job, and saving up for the move. I’ve calculated all the expenses, started looking for jobs in the city, and planned everything. However, I haven’t been as efficient in my plan. I feel like my head is spinning, going back and forth between if this is a good or bad idea.

Because my current home isn’t terrible physically, I think I’m starting to convince myself that moving out is a stupid idea. I have good space, and live close to get whatever I need. I still need to pay to live at home, but I feel at ease knowing I won’t be homeless. When I move out, I’m terrified of my plan failing and ending up unhoused because of the current market. My parents have also said that if I leave, they won’t allow me back.

Would it be better to live with my family for and wait until the US job market and cost of living gets better?
Or do I continue with my plan to move out and create a safety net in case things go south, knowing my parents won’t let me back or help? (3-6 month Emergency fund, roommates, etc.)

I appreciate it! thanks 😊

everyone tells me to use Facebook to find a roommate, but I find it caters to the older generation and no one my age seems to use Facebook ….

so I’m wondering how are the 20 somethings finding roommates if they don’t know anyone

First night alone.. like in my whole life. Idk what to do with myself😂😭 its really an emotional night for me. Seeing my mom and my bestfriend leave i was holding back so manyyyyy tears. A part of me is excited but also i have a weird feeling of grief. How did yall do it?

Hi, I'm 33 years old, I live with my mom, I have my challenges like I have Auditary proccessing disorder. I have fears, tons of them.
I need advices cause I"d like to be in my own appartment, but I'm scared of if I could make it.
I don't have a job. I'm very sick so I have social welfare. I just want to build my future, I just don't know where to start.
I've been living like this for a very long time. And I don't think at 33 years old. A man should still live with his mother.
But I do it because I don't have enough money to move out. But now it's really starting to make me realize I need to live with either a friend, a boyfriend or by myself
And not with a mother. Mothers are weird, they don't understand fully their children. When I talk with friends I feel so free. So not judged.
But when I talk to my mom about anything, there's always this feeling of suffocating. I can't explain. But I feel like I can't be myself without getting judged.
Anyway, I don't see myself living with her for the rest of my life.
The anxiety keeps growing because I'm nowhere near my goal.
I'm trying to find solutions, but appartements are so pricy. I can't live on my own and pay for electricity bills, my rent, the internet, my phone etc. I don't even have a car, I couldn't with my money income.
It's literaly impossible. I feel stuck and I hate it.
People sometimes move out when they are 18 years old, thats crazy, I wish I could have been able to do that. Although 23 years old would have been more mature for me. At 18 years old, I would have been too young imo. I had a severe depression back then so...

How did you move out from your parents house and survive? Little by little.

im 18 and trying to move out of my parents house, i have a 1 year old and im moving out because its an unfit environment. i have no idea how to do any of it, firstly how do i get the house in the first place. do i have to go inspect it and then they just explain to me? and how do i pay rent and everything do they explain it all to me when i get the house i just don’t understand.

I was disappointed how bad PODS has been. We needed to relocate a few states away. They went through great detail. Naps out the new house and even charged extra for the long driveway. We were very happy and loaded the pod and move on to the next stage. Two days free they took our stuff, they sent an email stating they would not deliver to our house, but about two hours away and that we would need to pick our stuff up the next day after arriving or be charge storage.
We call them, had them look through the contract and they would not change anything. We said return our stuff, to which we were to be charged for, and it would be 12 days.
I rented a U-Haul went across the city and pick up our stuff from their warehouse.
The truck cost us a lot more and delayed our move 24 hours.
It literally took a threat of legal action to get our money back. Nothing extra, no sorry, just back to zero.
Use another company, this was the worse service I have ever experienced.

I'm joining college in few days and my parents are pressurising me to join hostel.. it's not that I hate it (lowkey do hate it btw) but I have lived in pg for 1 year.. so I think hostel is not the best choice for me.. how should I convince them..

I’m moving out of my mom’s house soon, and she doesn’t want me doing this and will cut me out of her life permanently. I know that once I leave, mom isn’t gonna want me on her phone/internet bill anymore. How do I get myself onto another plan, including the internet in the new apartment, before she cuts off everything?

I came to the UK for a one-year master's degree. That was the plan. Just get the degree and go home…

Then I found a job. Then another. 7 years later, I'm still here. I even started thinking about citizenship. Maybe buying a flat. In other words, I made a life here…

But life had other plans. Now I have to move to the US. Orlando, Florida. I've never even been to that side of the ocean. It's basically a new country for me

I found an unfurnished apartment online. Looks decent. But now I'm staring at all my stuff. My furniture, akk my books and all my clothes and of course the kitchen things. Things I've collected over 7 years.

I can't just sell everything. Some pieces mean something to me. Others are just practical to keep. Small appliances won't work with US plugs, so those will go. But the rest?

I've been looking at removals companies that do removals to USA. Some specialize in moves to Florida. They handle everything from packing to customs

Has anyone done this kind of move? How does it work? Is it crazy expensive? Do they actually deliver everything safely?

My girlfriend (27 F) and I (31 F) are planning on moving within the next year to the pacific northwest. We always planned on moving near Portland but have friends in Oak Harbor, WA, so she wants me to consider moving near seattle. For context, I am an emergency room nurse and plan on working at a larger hospital once we move. We have been to Portland, but I have never visited Seattle. Any advice/opinions or benefits/downsides on either major city/area or a view of the healthcare networks for a nurse would be appreciated.