u/HistoricalWinner8731

SAHM of a 3 year old and 8 week old baby here. I’m in a shit position now. I caught my husband messaging an escort while I was pregnant. The day he messaged her was the day after I found out I was pregnant with our 2nd. And at the time I was bleeding and thinking I was having a repeat miscarriage while he was out of town. He swore nothing happened. Fast forward several weeks after me catching him, and he’s looking up escorts and escort reviews in our area. Twice (at least) since I had our 2nd child 8 weeks ago he’s done this. And he then called a massage parlor that’s really a rub & tug. The number he called is all over ads for hookers online. I confronted him and he admits to going there but claims he just “got a massage.” I don’t understand how someone can get caught red handed and still try to lie about it. If he was honest and remorseful it would make this easier. Instead, he’s claiming he goes to this shady massage parlor to get regular massages and acting like it’s crazy I don’t believe him.

Idk what to do next. I’m in such a horrible situation. I’m heartbroken and trapped. He controls the finances, and I’m breastfeeding our 8 week old and don’t have a job. I don’t know what to do. Having small children makes this so much more complicated.

I have evidence my husband has been seeing sex workers. At the very least he is searching them out online. I’m assuming he’s also seen some. Should I text him the screenshots of the evidence I have and leave? I feel like that would scare him and I’d love that for him. Or should I confront directly and see how he reacts? I’m extremely upset, we have two kids. He sought them out 11 days after I gave birth to our 2nd child and again when she was 5w old.

Update: he’s been confronted. Admits to going on these sites but claims he just uses them as porn. Says he just looks at the pictures. I would love to believe him but I don’t. Should probably include that this is the second time something like this has happened. Idk what to do. I’m in such a difficult position having young children. I’m a SAHM and am totally dependent on him currently. What a shit show. If we didn’t have children I’d be gone.