u/Historical_Spare_616

So, I (24F) have been having issues with my gf (26F) for awhile now, it’s just becoming unbearable to me at this point. I’ve known her to be very “attention seeking” in the past just by the way she over exaggerates her life stories, but now it’s like she’s trying to pull one over on me as well. I am the average person, I go to the dr when I need to and do all my yearly or bi-yearly checkups. However, my gf goes as soon as she thinks something is wrong. For example, she’s always told me “I’m autistic, I’m bipolar, I have issues you can’t understand.” (She is literally not diagnosed with any or seen for anything like this). I am an EMT, I’ve struggled with chronic depression and that’s about it. So I do understand that I will not understand other people’s conditions/situations. I am very forgiving, very open to listening, and very patient with people no matter how they may treat me. However, with my gf, I feel like she keeps using “I’m bipolar you wouldn’t understand me ever” as a constant excuse to treat me terribly. By terribly I mean constantly telling me that she doesn’t need me, that we are not financially together (even though I pay for everything except her car note), telling me I don’t care because I am I expressing how I feel, etc. mind you, this woman is not diagnosed with anything. Literally anything. Doesn’t seek “help”. Like nothing. No effort even *if* there was an actual issue. I’ve always given her patience because of this, but recently she just uses it as an excuse to talk to me crazy and treat me terribly. I mean, she is mean yall. Like, I am a stone cold person and she makes me cry because she makes me feel like dog crap on the bottom of her shoe. I do everything I possibly can for her, but for some reason she treats me like I don’t do anything except mess up. Everything I try to calmly talk about this with her, she gets mad and says I’m being disrespectful by not understanding why she treats me like this, and then goes to bed. When I voice these concerns, she responds with “the door is right there you can fucking leave.” But I feel like a caring response should be something more assuring like “I hear what you’re saying, how can we work through this?” Idk. I feel stuck. I love her, but I don’t feel respected by her. What do I need to do?