36M, going through a separation, going between feeling hopeful for the future and like a loser right now
Timeline : my ex gf and I met during Covid, bought a house, got pregnant, lost one of the twins, got separated, got back together and separated again in 5 years. Kiddos were conceived less than 2 years in. She pulled the goalie.
Now we’re actually separating. She wants to go live 40 minutes away, wants a 2 day and 3 day rotating parenting schedule for me, won’t consider a schedule that’s close to 50/50 because she wants weekends as well as the school week in her new town which ensures maximum child support for her. I know she’s just trying to get everything she can out of me which is what she did during the relationship.
I’m treading water people but I’m definitely in one right now. I have an amazing daughter and a good career and will likely be able to buy her out of our house and keep it myself (which all goes to my daughter in my will) but a core part of my identity is being taken away from me and I’m not sure what to do moving forward. I’m open to whatever life brings my way but my options are limited career/mobility wise and I guess it’s just a massive change and the unknown of what lies ahead is looming large. I hope I haven’t made a massive mistake.