u/Historybitcx

I’m a new grad working as a medical assistant in an OBGYN office. We have an ultrasound tech in office that somewhat often discovers fetal demise. Happens about once a week. Even when not my patient, I hear the mother crying when she learns her baby is dead. Last month my patient had a second trimester loss. Today I learned a patients infant died. A month or so after birth.
How do you deal with this?
How do you process?

We all signed a sympathy card for the family. But I just can’t process.
How do I do this?

Suggest me a book with low(ish) ratings but that you loved!

The Astrology House and Boy, 9, Missing are two of mine.

I recently started as a Medical Assistant in an OBGYN office. We have an ultrasound tech in the office and losses are discovered in office sometimes. Part of my job is to take their medical history including all pregnancy history.

I already know to never diminish any loss, the words “at least” are never to be used. Is there anything I should make sure to do or not do when discussing miscarriage and stillbirth either directly after discovering a loss, supporting them in the weeks after, PAL, or when taking their history years after loss?

I would love to ask about their baby but don’t want to make the experience more emotional than it already is. I would appreciate any opinions about how best to care for these patients.

Much love to you all ❤️