I experienced 2 placental abruptions this year at 22 weeks and 2 days and lost my boys. I’m looking to see if anyone has ever experience two abruptions , and had a successful pregnancy after? Trying to be positive and find success stories. Thanks
My heart is completely broken typing this. After years of hard work and trying, my partner and I just lost our twin babies at 18 weeks, only two days ago. We are devastated.
When it happened, we were just in total shock. We didn't have the mental or emotional strength to figure out what to do next, so when the hospital asked, we just told them to transfer our babies to the pathology department.
Now that a couple of days have passed and the initial shock is wearing off, we are deeply second-guessing that decision. We don’t have any elders or family around to lean on or guide us through this, so we feel completely lost. We’re agonizing over whether we made the right choice, or if we should try to arrange a funeral so we can properly say goodbye.
I'm hoping to hear from anyone who has been through a similar late loss:
We just want to do right by our two sweetest souls. Thank you so much for reading.
My husband and I have a family member who just lost their 9 month infant in a horrific car accident. This is such a terrible loss for a family that's already been through so much. We live out of state but wish we could be there as they navigate this loss. It is also difficult because we are expecting our daughter to be born right around when their baby would have turned one. Prior to this loss they had given us so many hand me downs (enough to where we didn't need to buy any clothes for all those sizes). Since this accident we have been thinking that our daughter being born will be a trigger for their grief but we also are afraid seeing photos of our daughter wearing those clothes will be too hard for them. I don't want to overstep but I also don't want to give them an additional burden/task to complete. Since we have a majority of their premie/newborn/0-3month clothes I was thinking about having a birthweight animal made for them out of a few items that I know they loved. Then I was thinking to protect them from seeing photos of our daughter in her clothes I was thinking we would opt to not use them. Perhaps pack them up and give them to a family member that lives nearby in case they wanted to take these items (along with the bigger sizes she had already packed away planning to give to us and the current sizes) in case they wanted to make a quilt or something else? It seems trivial to be worried about clothes but honestly from out of state I feel like there isn't much for us to do to help and maybe this will minimize their pain?
For those of you that have had infant loss how would you feel about clothing you had given away would you want it back? Would you want a keepsake? Would you want to forget it existed? Would you want to see photos of family in your deceased child's clothes?
I only know loss from miscarriages (8-12weeks) so I only kept one thing from each loss and donated the rest to be out of sight. Infant loss where they knew and loved the baby outside of the womb and hearing her say mama and dada is a type of loss I can't even begin to imagine so I appreciate any advice on supporting our family especially from afar.
Hi All,
I (35F) lost my baby ar 24 weeks this July (stillborn) due to smaller than 3rd percentile placenta and small cord. I was also diagnosed with APS (beta 2 glycoprotein Igg 33 the day after delivery and 51 post 12 weeks).
I had sent my placenta slides to both Dr. Parast from UCSD and Dr. Kliman from Yale.
Dr Parast says she did not see any evidence of MVM or maternal autoimmune disease, but she sees evidence of FVM. She thinks the demise was due to short cord leading to smaller placenta and FVM. Although she did say FVM may happen due to APS but it is not typical.
Dr Kliman says he also did not see any clots or evidence of maternal autoimmune disease. He thinks the placenta was small likely due to some sort of genetic issues (he mentioned irregular trophoblast inclusions). We did some genetic testing and fetus genetic microarray that came out ok, we will do some more genetic testing soon just to be sure.
I had a preconception consultation with an MFM who thinks it is APS. Which I kind of agree with.
Whatever the actual reason is, I will go on the usual APS medication if I can conceive again. However, I was wondering why the placental pathology reports did not show any evidence of autoimmune disorder and/or clots? Has anyone else face similar issues? That you had APS but pathology did not show any evidence? Although I think the very small placenta and small cord itself can be evidence of APS even though placental pathology did not show any other typical evidence, right?
If anyone else is also positive for APS but had only a smaller placenta/cord/FVM and placental pathology did not show any other hard evidence (MVM/clots etc) for APS, please let me know!
The reason I am asking is I really want to know if there could be things other than APS that may have caused the loss. Trying to figure out if I have missed anything before I try to TTC.
My son was Donovin was born still at 36 weeks on Aug 25, 2026. I think I’m looking for reassurance that I am
not overreacting. I still cry most every day. I still
wake up and just lay there thinking this cannot be my reality. I still imagine where he would and what he would be doing in every situation we are in.
When people ask me if I have other children I want to say “Yes I have a son that passed away” but for some reason I’m questioning if that is the right response. I truly feel I do have him as a child. But I guess I’m needing reassurance that this response to describe him is appropriate even though he passed away shortly before his birth.
ETA- I am so disappointed in myself. I went to an appt this morning and told myself I would acknowledge my son if he came up in conversation. A woman asked me how many children I have and I froze and ultimately
didn’t mention him.
It’s been a year since I lost my son . He was born 22 w 4 d . It all started on Friday evening, I was feeling a bit uneasy and had a back pain. I did have a long day at work so i thought I was just tired and went to sleep. The next day a couple of hours in the morning seemed to be okay but again I started feeling uneasy. I just wanted to lie in bed and interestingly I started having noticeable discharge. I took a shower and went to sleep and went I went to use the bathroom I saw some blood.
I rushed to the hospital, on my way to the hospital contractions started. I just reached the emergency and my water broke. Within an hour I delivered my baby. Everything happened so quickly I just couldn’t process it.
I found out the gender of my baby after delivering him at 22 weeks.
He was born with a strong heartbeat and was immediately moved to the NICU. One doctor came up to me and said his chance of survival is less than 20%. He lived for 4 days and finally on oct 8th 2025 he passed away.
Since tomorrow is his birthday, I wanted to share my story in this group. Every night for the past one year I read some stories from fellow mamas. Hope our babies in heaven are happy.
Happy birthday Arjun . I miss you every single day.
Parker James was born on 14 August 2026 and passed on a few hours later. I've got a lifetime's worth of love for him, and this is one of the places it goes.
After noticing little information and no website for bereaved fathers day and bereaved dads, I focused some of my energy into a website for bereaved Father’s Day, but it’s not just that.
It’s a place for Dads, friends, family, and workplaces.
A place for support, guidance, help with communication and a place to write letters to our children that have died.
So I’m pleased to announce:
bereavedfathersday.com is live.
Bereaved Fathers Day is the last Sunday in August, the Sunday before Father's Day. It's for every Dad whose little one has passed on, and for the people who love him.
On the site: support written just for Dads, help for family and friends who don't know what to say, a guide for workplaces, and the numbers to call, any hour.
If you know a Dad who might need it, send it to him.
Your support in helping to share and spread this would mean the world to me, by next year i would love for this to be commonly recognised and celebrated for parents across the globe.
The site doesn’t raise money, has no ads or trackers and is purely built out of love by me and for the support of other dads.
I seriously don’t know what to do, how to react, how to live.
I was pregnant at the same time as my sister in law. My baby died, she gave birth shortly after.
Now my other sister in law is pregnant.
I just can’t.
I know I’m being dramatic and bitchy, but the actual thought of them deciding after 5 years they suddenly want a baby after my baby dies, I just can’t help but be angry. For context, she has two other kids. Now obviously I don’t think they planned to have a baby after mine died but the timing is just so so messed up. After five years you decide you want a third? And it happens to be a few months after I lost my baby.
They also know I’ve been having a really hard time. Why the fuck tell me when it’s still so early. Like they couldn’t wait to share the news. And the way they told me as well. They told my husband to tell me. Not even approach me or care about how I feel. I have friends at work that I don’t even talk to on a daily basis have more empathy than them.
I’m seriously just so fricken upset and my husband and basically no one in my life understands - hell I don’t even understand, I’m just so so upset and a little angry and just frustrated and so so hurt, and I just hate this feeling.
I hate this so so much and I just hate everyone and I hate everything and I just want to give up
We lost our 4 month old baby girl two weeks ago today. But we have an almost 3 year old super energetic boy - has anyone else had to grieve their infant whilst parenting a toddler? I feel like I mask and put on a brave face for 14 hours a day then just collapse into grief once he’s gone to bed. It’s slowing the acceptance process for me. Would love just to hear about others experiences. Advice not essential, I just want to feel less alone.