u/ChocolateSundai

Trigger warning

I had one living child who I gained about 30lbs during that pregnancy and lost around 15-20 which I was happy with because I was pretty small anyway.

But then 6 months after his birth I was pregnant with the child I lost and although I gained only 1lb is 20 weeks I was pregnant, my stomach is sticking around.

I can’t get it to leave. I work out- albeit not consistently but there is always moments whether in walking or playing outside with my husband (literally we are two big kids) but somehow my stomach never leaves.

It’s a harsh reminder of the loss. In my mind if I can loss my stomach I can be that much better. I loss him in September. Some days are just hard I guess.

I’m a life long Sims players. I’ve played on the DS, Sims 3 in the Urbz, Sims 4 (still actively playing), but wanted to try a Sims game on the iPad so downloaded Free Play. I’m a little confused, do these Sims not do their own thing if you do not tell them what to do? I noticed my sim only goes to work when I tap the work icon. Do they eat, drink, sleep without being told?

I also feel bad for my 3 Sims trapped at the farmers market so I can make money. I did not realize what I was getting myself into and spent a lot of money on decorations and spent the lifestyle points on random actions. I didn’t realize money flow is slower, and jobs only exist once you build the business which can be pricey.

I enjoy this Sims but I am not used to actually having to do so much. I can’t “stack” commands. And time in the game is the same as real life time similar to animal crossing. Some of the tasks to go to the next level take 9hrs !

I want to make sure I am playing correctly. It’s only been 2-3 days and while I enjoy it when I look at this sub it makes me wonder if I am missing something or is this just typical early game play?

Also outside of the farmers market and trying to do the tasks to level up should I be doing anything else?

I had such a great day. Actually a few great days in a row. I lost my lil baby when he was 20 weeks due to a subchorionic hematoma causing early labor and a sleeping baby.

I also hemorrhage during the procedure to remove the placenta.

Tonight I can’t stop wishing I was pregnant. Feeling him kick again (I only got to feel it for a few days). Having innocent faith that things will be okay. So innocent that I was afraid to give birth especially as a block woman, but I actually didn’t even know what to be afraid of exactly. M

Now that I know, and have experienced a hemorrhage to the point I had to get a blood transfusion I am terrified of trying again. I’m 32. I do have a (TW) living child that is almost 2.

I ask afraid that if I try again I could bleed again. What if this time they couldn’t control it? What if I lost another baby? What if I get a subchorionic hematoma again? What if I bleed every day of my pregnancy AGAIN?

So many what ifs that I can’t sleep. What do you do when you can’t sleep because life keeps knocking at your door?

I just gotta know…is this a slow burn like Crescent City? Because thoroughly enjoyed it but I read it with the mindset to just enjoy the world and the story and not wait for the next exciting moment.

ACOTAR series is by far my favorite with ACOMAF being my absolute favorite. I plan to reread both books after I finish TOG series. I’m just nervous I won’t like it. Crescent city took me a while to get into as did ACOTAR…I just want a good book with great plot and characters.

TLDR- Give it to me straight- will I have to bore myself through 200pgs before TOG gets interesting?