u/ChocolateSundai

Out of curiosity did anyone transition to this game from Sims 4? Because I did, and I feel like I enjoy it more than others on the thread. A lot of the tweaks that are desired in this game are in Sims4 regarding the interactions and making Sims look more unique.

I’m also used to paying for certain things to further enjoy my game, I know that is their MO and I accept it.

I played Sims4 since it was released but got tired of playing on my laptop after my toddler went to bed. So I transitioned to this game and was so elated to play it on my iPad! If this game feels less busy and empty give Sims4 a try and maybe it will scratch that itch.

But if you played other Sims games, do you enjoy this version more or less?

I just finished reading this book quite literally 5 minutes ago and I’m gonna be honest…the book is 960 pages I DNF at 926 I couldn’t take it anymore. I wanted to quit around page 800. These are my thoughts and please forgive me for rambling. I also have a few questions.

First question— What was the point of Dorian collapsing Morath? What did it do? They still marched 100k soldiers into Orynth, so what was the point? Erawon and Maeve were still left alive…WHAT WAS THE POINT?

Second question— if Dorian went into Maeve mind when they were in Morath to take her ability to go into other minds and left her in the tower why was she still able to create illusions for Aelin, Rowan, Lorcan, and Fenyre? (Spelling sorry)

Third Question— ELIDE GAVE AELIN THE RING TO PROTECT HER FROM VALG POWER YET MAEVE WAS STILL ABLE TO PUT HER IN AN ILLUSION…HOWWWW?!?

Forth question— the “Gods” going into their world and not taking Erawon??? What was that??? Multiple books about these wyrdkeys and this lock for it to mean NOTHING in the end.

Thoughts-
Gavriel didn’t have to die. That really annoyed me. Just seemed purposeless.

Loved Manon story she kept me hooked for a long time.

Aedion suffering in battle against the Valg for 5 days is unrealistic, instead of SJM having Aelin show up for Chaol first I think she should have shown up for Aedion.

Dorian’s story was great but I actually wish he teamed up with Maeve purely for the plot.

SJM has a torture kink. I don’t understand why in every book the MC has to be tortured. It’s disturbing. Aelin was 9-10 when her parents died and somehow we have to believe that she believes she deserves to be tortured by Maeve for “walking away” for 10 years. A traumatized child who was taken into captivity by an assassin…cairn torturing her to the point where she basically had a new body was too much personally for me.

I did not and will not read the last 50 or so pages but I never understood why she didn’t allow Aedion to blood oath her but she allows every other fae that she meets to do so. He could have done it right after Rowan, she had plenty of time but it never happened.

⭐️⭐️ for Manon and Dorian carrying the book

At the end of Empire of Storms I didn’t want to read Tower of Dawn because I could care less about Chaol! But my goodness TOD was BY FAR my favorite book in the entire series. It was so beautiful the way she wrote about healing both physically and emotionally. She really has a gift in that area to convey those emotions and resignate with me the most.

But now I’m started on KOA and it’s taking me a minute to get into the flow of the book. I feel like I’m not connecting. I already miss the empire from TOD and those characters. I’m sure my mind will catch up but I struggle at the beginning of all of her books the getting used to the multiple POVs!

I lost my beautiful baby boy at 5 months just 2 days after I say him moving around happily in the ultrasound and a day after feeling him kick in my belly. I hold those moments so so dear to my heart grateful that I felt it at all.

A coworker in another department had a loss around the same time as myself but it was due to a genetic disorder and she was recommended to have a procedure around 15 weeks.

I did not return to this job because my grief was so over bearing. However, I just became aware that my former co worker is pregnant again. I had to go on ssri medication due to the trauma caused by the way I loss him and the bleeding for an entire second trimester. I don’t feel that I’m mentally well enough.

But it made me wonder if I ever will be? My first thought was wow she is so brave and strong…I’m terrified to try again. I don’t know if I ever could. I don’t know how women try again

My personal struggle with providing therapy via telehealth is that a small amount of my clients are seen during their work day. Which means if we go too deep and they become emotional they are not often in a state to return to work, participate in meetings, or feel comfortable ending the session to resume their day. I often have to ask if they feel safe touching on some vulnerable areas. I’ve had a handful of clients end therapy because they had no other time to meet, but understand therapy could go no further in a compromised setting. I have had one client attempt to do her sessions while in a break room. I have the conversation with them, but due to their time restrictions and responsibilities at home, the outcome is never what I would hope which is conducting therapy privately at home on a day off from work.

Well, that’s my personal therapy barrier with a select few of virtual clientele.

I would love to know what is a challenge that you are confronted with due to conducting therapy virtually?

My husband was watching me play and decided to help me with my second Dusty house in Sandy Suburbs. However, his help came with a $150k price tag. I loved his suggestions and made the changes, but this is only Day 2 of this challenge.

So I told him to pay for his crimes of making me spend so much in-game money I will be using real money to make up for it.

What is the best deal when you spend real money on the game? I have Sims 4 so I’m used to dropping some money here and there for different things to enjoy the game and creating. But I’m new to Sims Freeplay. Is the $14 piggy bank with 100 LPs the best deal?

Is there another deal with simoleans that you found to be worth it?

I have recently have a sudden surge of veteran referrals. Many of the times I can only complete an intake because the individual is out of my wheelhouse of specialities such as substance usage, a specific trauma, or eating disorders. I feel bad I am not able to take these client’s on because they tell me due to their process they have to wait 2-3 months for the appointment. Actually, I wondered how their case worker chose my practice at all because I have zero substance and/or eating disorders credentials. They have also tried to send me married couples and I am not a couples counselor.

With that being said, the clients I do take on score max numbers on the PHQ and GAD7 consistently and they tell me if they make the score lower, they will be unable to continue therapy.

Does anyone have experience with this population? I’ve been in private practice for 3 years and worked in mental health for nearly 9 years and have never had so many issues and confusion until I started receiving VA referrals.

Added context:on my website you can book a consult or an appointment and they choose to book an appointment - referal information says VA case manager. I have contacted the VA and they have said they have lost therapist and are now seeking outside providers

TLDR: seeking tips for working with veterans and their vocalized need to have their documentation reflect highest mental health concerns. I document my clinical observations, client self report, and their phq9 and gad7 scores, but I am overall concerned that those who need therapy won’t be able to stay in service due to VA benefits criteria.

Still TLDR: help I am confused with the veterans and their weird processes as a clinician in private practice :)

I have a handful of clients that major issues are deeply connected to their low self esteem. We have been working together for 2 years. We have addressed where these negative perceptions came from, listed negative automatic thoughts and labeled who it came from (teacher, mom, dad, etc). We have made (or I have suggested) positivity jars filled with compliments and cognitive reframing. I regularly check my interventions against evidence based interventions to confirm I am using these tools correctly for the client.

Some times I feel like they make great progress and then take 20 steps back. Or they have the insight now but it’s not actually believed by them. We have also talked about practical ways these negative perceptions have affected them and best ways to handle real life situations especially with men and dating or comparing with friends.

We do so much work and I feel like…we can’t reach the success line. I’m wondering if I have taken them as far as I can and for their benefit I need to transfer care, or if I should just meet them where they are (which of course I have done) and just become a listening ear since they have the tools.

Also should note my client specifically with low self esteem and self value obviously suffer from depression and rarely complete these interventions unless in session and at times it’s like pulling teeth. Sometimes I chill on being solution or results focused and meet them where they are, but I also want them to gain something from our work together.

I don’t know where to go from here.

And yes I have brought this up to these particular clients and the excuse is usually that “life is life-ing,” or they simple don’t want to do it. I tried to transfer one client and she suddenly had SI and crisis sessions which is highly unusual.

TLDR: Anyone ever had this situation where a couple of clients are not making progress nor are they interested in engaging consistently in interventions or coping mechanisms? And it has been 2yrs and the progress is minimal but the client is not interested in transferring to a new therapist or adding in medication management due to pervasive symptom

When I was pregnant with my first baby in 2024 I grew to hate my two dogs. They were suddenly too dirty, too much dog hair, and too clingy or loud. I thought it would go away but instead I ended up rehoming them to wonderfully amazing families when my baby was 4 months old.

And for context I had so much anxiety about my baby’s safety that I either left my dogs outside for longer than usual or in their room (they used to have their own doggy room). I would become irate if they moved around the house. I made a post around that time and received a lot of negative comments although I made a decision that put them in a much better environment.

The update is that it’s been over a year and I don’t regret it. I clean my house nearly every night. I feel so much relief that I don’t have to deal with muddy paw prints or fur on the couch getting on my toddler. I had a loss in my second pregnancy and mentally broke down and was grateful I didn’t have additional responsibilities.

Overall I feel I made the best decision for my family and my mental health. I’m glad I listened to myself and found them wonderful homes with kind hearted families. If you find yourself in this position let your last act of love be to place them with a wonderful family so you know they are having a much better life than they would have with you. I hope this post helps someone who is struggling like I was.

Trigger warning

I had one living child who I gained about 30lbs during that pregnancy and lost around 15-20 which I was happy with because I was pretty small anyway.

But then 6 months after his birth I was pregnant with the child I lost and although I gained only 1lb is 20 weeks I was pregnant, my stomach is sticking around.

I can’t get it to leave. I work out- albeit not consistently but there is always moments whether in walking or playing outside with my husband (literally we are two big kids) but somehow my stomach never leaves.

It’s a harsh reminder of the loss. In my mind if I can loss my stomach I can be that much better. I loss him in September. Some days are just hard I guess.

I’m a life long Sims players. I’ve played on the DS, Sims 3 in the Urbz, Sims 4 (still actively playing), but wanted to try a Sims game on the iPad so downloaded Free Play. I’m a little confused, do these Sims not do their own thing if you do not tell them what to do? I noticed my sim only goes to work when I tap the work icon. Do they eat, drink, sleep without being told?

I also feel bad for my 3 Sims trapped at the farmers market so I can make money. I did not realize what I was getting myself into and spent a lot of money on decorations and spent the lifestyle points on random actions. I didn’t realize money flow is slower, and jobs only exist once you build the business which can be pricey.

I enjoy this Sims but I am not used to actually having to do so much. I can’t “stack” commands. And time in the game is the same as real life time similar to animal crossing. Some of the tasks to go to the next level take 9hrs !

I want to make sure I am playing correctly. It’s only been 2-3 days and while I enjoy it when I look at this sub it makes me wonder if I am missing something or is this just typical early game play?

Also outside of the farmers market and trying to do the tasks to level up should I be doing anything else?

I had such a great day. Actually a few great days in a row. I lost my lil baby when he was 20 weeks due to a subchorionic hematoma causing early labor and a sleeping baby.

I also hemorrhage during the procedure to remove the placenta.

Tonight I can’t stop wishing I was pregnant. Feeling him kick again (I only got to feel it for a few days). Having innocent faith that things will be okay. So innocent that I was afraid to give birth especially as a block woman, but I actually didn’t even know what to be afraid of exactly. M

Now that I know, and have experienced a hemorrhage to the point I had to get a blood transfusion I am terrified of trying again. I’m 32. I do have a (TW) living child that is almost 2.

I ask afraid that if I try again I could bleed again. What if this time they couldn’t control it? What if I lost another baby? What if I get a subchorionic hematoma again? What if I bleed every day of my pregnancy AGAIN?

So many what ifs that I can’t sleep. What do you do when you can’t sleep because life keeps knocking at your door?

I just gotta know…is this a slow burn like Crescent City? Because thoroughly enjoyed it but I read it with the mindset to just enjoy the world and the story and not wait for the next exciting moment.

ACOTAR series is by far my favorite with ACOMAF being my absolute favorite. I plan to reread both books after I finish TOG series. I’m just nervous I won’t like it. Crescent city took me a while to get into as did ACOTAR…I just want a good book with great plot and characters.

TLDR- Give it to me straight- will I have to bore myself through 200pgs before TOG gets interesting?