u/Hogwartsfounders

I need serious help . Female (30) and male (31) married for 6 years together for longer than 10+ - found him texting another woman whilst we were on holiday. A woman’s intuition never lies - I been looking into it for two weeks . I have had the confirmation today and found messages between the two of them . He has deleted and been very clever and secretive with his phone recently. My parents and siblings are aware of this now and I am planning my exit . What should I do. Should I also speak to the girl as I feel I want to know how long this has been going on and whether she is aware. I feel spiteful heartbroken and jealous in all honestly - I don’t want him to be happy and have her straight after I leave him. I want both of us to leave him. What shall I do as I am planning to apply for a khula. I don’t know how to apply or where to go . I am living in laws I have lost a few kg in last two weeks and not able to sleep or eat. The peace from my heart has gone - I read my prayers and Quran daily. I prayed Tahajjud and I feel Allah always answers my prayers and shows me the way. He showed me this- now I am stuck on how to go around it and confront. We were planning on having kids he blamed me for infertility issues which I don’t have and is now refusing to be tested after I was given the clear . Serious help please .