Struggling with infertility + RPL. Have you guys actually found therapy helpful?
Hi, I have been in therapy since Sept 2024.
Originally I was going due to not being able to get pregnant. (I've had all the testing done and we've been diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Lovely.)
Then I had a MC in May 2025 after finally getting pregnant through IUI. Repeated it all in Sept 2025. Have not got pregnant since (i am currently in the 2WW after IUI #3). It really sucks to be part of both communities.
I have never found therapy particularly helpful, either for infertility or the grief. I tried a new therapist after the 2nd miscarriage. It is slightly better but again maybe it helps 1%.
Both therapists have told me on repeat that how I feel is normal. I KNOW its normal. Im still struggling with the anxiety, anger and sadness. I dont need someone to listen to me and say that's normal. I can talk to my friends and get that. My friend thinks they should be able to give me ways to calm down, manage the overthinking and spiraling.
I cant tell if I should try a 3rd therapist, or if I will just get the same. I dont want to do the work of finding another therapist if I'm going to get the same advice.
Has anyone been to therapy for this and found it genuinely helpful? Gotten actionable advice about how to deal with their feelings? Or is this one of those things that just sucks and you cant do anything to help it (which is what my first therapist essentially said).
TIA ❤️