I have zero sex drive, but somehow I still care about looking good and fashionable.
I am sick and tired of dye-ing away my gray hairs, and am looking into “greyblending” and new techniques to keep me away from hair dye every few weeks.
Speaking of hair, I have less on my head and more in places I don’t want it.
My skin is getting crepe-y, saggy, and wrinkly.
I feel much less social than I used to, although my energy level is decent. Not what it used to be, but decent.
I have had some hot flashes.
In other words, a TON of perimenopause/aging signs.
My husband still looks super young, and now I feel like we don’t “match” age-wise. Sometimes people seem surprised when they meet one of us, either he or I are not what they expected. Annoying. I can’t wait until he catches up with me a bit, especially because he actually *likes* his few grays and wrinkles.
Overall, though, I still feel happy, and remarkably “cool,“ although my kids would definitely disagree. I have the baggier pants paired with the vintage tennis shoes…. and a lot of confused emotions.
Where are the shows about this stage of life? Where were the frank discussions with doctors and older women about what to expect?
Its not “sexy” and maybe a little embarrassing, so I guess everyone just wants to pretend it isn’t happening. There is such a weird silence surrounding it all.
We shouldn’t have to turn to the internet (and our oldest, closest friends) just so we don’t feel alone in this!