u/HolidayReplacement81

I’ve had a friend since grade school who I fell out with from lost contact and reconnected a year or so ago. We were close but she tended to be flakey. It was fine with me I’m an introvert so I don’t mind when friends cancel but overtime it did start to annoy me.

We were more aligned two years ago and I feel as if we are not aligned at all now. She’s super into plastic surgery and hates the way she looks even though she’s a perfectly fine and healthy woman with a partner. It would get annoying at times when we would be in her room and she would start picking herself apart in the mirror. I felt bad but nothing I could say to her was good enough.

Fast forward and she invited me to a religious Christmas party (I’m not religious but once was. I never told her this because I wasn’t sure how she’d react) the party consists of 8 girls our age and it’s super boujee vibes which she didn’t tell me. I felt really out of place and even showed up late from traffic which she wasn’t happy about. So the whole night she spends with her one friend and I feel pretty excluded. I tried really hard to make new friends and make the most of it but it was like everyone had their own group and I was sitting alone. To make it worse they all sat on the couch and I was alone on a chair which I felt amplified that feeling of being apart from the group. Everyone in the group introduced themselves and it ended up taking so long that I was the only person who didn’t get to introduce myself.

Then I go to take a picture with her, which she makes a big fuss over ,but we usually always take photos together so I was confused. I asked if she wanted a filter because she always uses filters in her photos and she says “oh girl we don’t use filters anymore” which was a blatant lie. I wasn’t sure if she was trying to embarrass me.

Then recently she stopped liking my posts, removed me from her close friends, and didn’t wish me a happy birthday.

I also had tried to say hi to her a couple times and she never let the conversation go on more. The last full conversation we had was over her asking me gym advice which left me feeling like she’s just using me.

She had told me her other friends judge her because I’m her only white friend and they think she’s weird for hanging out with me.

Also a situation happened where she didn’t tip her waiter and I ended up having to cover it. She said she didn’t have to since the drink wasn’t good.

Any advice?