Advice for breaking news about moving in before marriage to Catholic parents?
Hi all,
I’m sure this has probably been asked before but I really need some advice. I (23F) have recently re-signed my lease with my boyfriend of about two years (25M). We have seriously discussed this for about the past six months and it feels like the right next step in our relationship. The thing is, I haven’t told my parents yet.
I am pretty close with my mom, but she has taken a turn back towards the church since the covid lockdown, growing up we went to church maybe once a month, were enrolled in CCD, and did our sacraments. Since 2020, she has gotten way more religious and conservative. My dad has always been very protective of me to the point it sometimes makes me uncomfortable. They are both judgmental. I have cousins and friends who are living with their partners and they make comments to me about how they are “living in sin” etc.
I am mostly financially independent (except for my phone bill and car insurance which I am more than happy to pay myself when I get to pay less rent when we live together!) and haven’t lived at home since my sophomore year of college. Realistically, I know there is nothing they can do or really anything they can hold over my head, I just know they will be angry and disappointed - my mom believes the whole point of marriage is to move in together and start a new life together (I obviously disagree).
I guess I’m just looking for a little support and advice! Thank you!