28F & 29M : little affection and intimacy in 1 year long relationship
Okay I need a bit of relationship advice, because I don't know if this is something I'm over thinking or maybe I just want another persons opinion. I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for about a year, he doesn't show much verbal or physical affection, and we don't really kiss very often, (maybe a good night peck or a goodbye peck at the most when I see him). We don't hold hands much, and but usually in the mornings we're more cuddly.
On the sex front, I have a pretty high sex drive, and and been more sexually active in previous relationships than this one, so I think it strikes me as odd sometimes where we go several weeks without sex- I usually see him on weekends, and sometimes we will go a fortnight or longer without it. Is that normal in most relationships?
Additionally, I've hung out a lot with his friends, even been on couple trips with them, but he's very hesitant to come to things with my friends (I have a majority girl friendships, so when I know it's going to be a girls night I won't bother inviting him - but when it's a mixed group or a party he's still hesitant to come- says he's shy)
Overall, I feel safe and comfortable with him, and recently I bought up a conversation where I wanted to know if things were progressing, because the relationship has felt a bit stagnant over the past 6 months or so-- we've never really spoken about how we feel about each other, and he just said he's really slow with things as he hasn't dated in a really long time (6+ years) but he did say maybe he's dropped the ball a bit on things if I'm unsure where things are at and said that things have progressed a lot for him feelings wise, and was concerned that i felt that way, to which I said I do feel like things have progressed, but if we don't talk about it to each other but then it's hard to know where we both stand.
That conversation was maybe a month ago, and not too much has changed since then.
Overall, I told him I don't really want to waste my time, and I'm happy with things going slow- but with intimacy and affection being so spaced out, i feel like I have this yo-yo affect, where we will have a great weekend, I'll feel giddy and in love, and then the following week it'll be like roommates with each other and I won't feel as connected and then I'll question the week before.