Avoidant Ex blocked me and I never felt better
TL;DR My avoidant ex blocked me after weeks of radio silence and I feel relieved and realized that everyone around me was right about him being someone who can’t hold himself accountable for the hurt he causes.
We used to have a great relationship, I will say. we valued each other’s time and did our best to consistently see each other and our other partners with our schedules (me having university classes and him having work). I felt that despite our hiccups with our mental health issues, things were okay, and we had just gotten out of a rough winter that affected our mental health, I felt that things were looking up and we’d have a great summer ahead of us.
Until he dumped me last month before finals started for me. The whole “it’s not you it’s all me“ spiel, and finding out that he had lied about his emotions for four months before he dumped me did a huge number on my emotional well-being, and I wasn’t able to fully process it because I had to lock in and do well on final projects and exams; I’ve talked to those around me and they’ve agreed that how he handled it was a really shitty way of doing it.
I had temporarily blocked him on social media because seeing his profile made me miserable and triggered depressive spirals, and unblocked him a day or two afterward. Just yesterday, I found out he blocked me back and honestly? I feel relieved. I thought I’d be devastated that he doesn’t want to mend things but in reality I feel almost happy, I don’t feel the emotional burden of trying to mend our relationship, and I feel like I’ve dodged a massive red flag with trying to mend things.
Of course, things will be awkward since we share a polycule, but I don’t feel like I have to suffocate myself and make myself small and invisible around him anymore, and him blocking me has made me realize that I should’ve broke up with him AGES ago when he told me “you can’t love a wall”; I was too blinded by love to see that was a warning that he’d just discard me the moment reality got too real for him.
I’m just glad he’s out of my life, I feel so much better not having the anxiety of if he’ll respond on my back, and I’m incredibly thankful for my current partner who’s been supportive of me through this breakup ❤️