I’m confused
Lately I’ve been wondering if I might be on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrum, and I’ve been having a hard time figuring out how I feel.
I think one of the things that confuses me most is that I never really stopped to think about what I wanted. I always assumed my future would follow a certain path because it was what I saw around me. Now I’m realizing that I often didn’t even consider other possibilities because I was afraid they would mean being alone or doing life in the “wrong way.” I still think like that sometimes in a subconscious way. How can I stop thinking like this? Am I doing something wrong? Am I gonna do life wrong?
How do you tell the difference between not wanting a romantic relationship and simply not being interested in dating culture?
Has anyone else felt more drawn to the idea of community, deep friendship, or sharing a life with someone than to the idea of dating itself?
How did you figure out what you genuinely wanted versus what you felt expected to want?
I also struggle to separate what I truly desire from what I’m afraid of losing. I don’t know if I’m questioning because something doesn’t fit, or because I’m scared of the possibility of being different from what I imagined for myself.
If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences.