Hey, I think this reddit is only for step parents but I need some advice from.. other step-parents I guess.
My mom is with this one dude we'll call.. John. John has been married to my mom since they found out she was pregnant two years ago and back then, he was good to me. He seemed like the perfect step dad, bought us food, took us out a lot, helped with our situations, helped mom. But it just slowly seems as he has more and more of his own kids in the house, he hates me more. We kicked out my brothers awhile ago so HIS kid(1) could finally leave his mom and move here, it's just sucked more since then. All his kid does is play games, get in trouble in school, etc. VERY IMPORTANT NOTE, his other kid(2, much older) got arrested for alcohol after sneaking out when he visited us.
Since then, every time it seems I make a mistake or slip up, John gets mad at me. He immediately blames me for something I haven't done or accuses me of getting pregnant when I go to my boyfriend's house(Where I MUCH rather be then my own.) for longer then normal, because he refused to pick me up and I didn't have a ride home. It's only him accusing me of it, every single dang time something bad happens, he blames me. Baby's bowl got outside? Me, no one knows how to clean? Me, no one is doing anything in the house? Me! I just don't get it. I'm not a bad kid, I'm in jrotc and I'm a captain and I'm doing very well for myself. I go to community events, officer meets, and out-of-town events so when I'm home, I'm always tired and burnt out, I know I chose that but it still sucks sometimes. I'm trying so desperately to go to JCLC so I don't have to be here at least during a week of summer.
Recently, it's been getting worse. John and my Mom have been arguing a ton and you can tell how it weighs on the house, like- it just feels heavy. No one talks, or cooks near each other, it's just.. quiet. We know it's them and we don't know what to do. I'm raising a puppy these past few months and it seems like everything is just going wrong. John gets mad at me for feeding him inside, but gets mad when I leave him outside with the other dogs, gets mad for him screaming in a cage, but he doesn't like when he's not in a cage. It's so stupid and Idk what to do. He keeps telling me to give away my dog or find another home because /HE/ doesn't like it. Why does it matter what he likes with MY dog.
John always talks and doesn't get mad when it's his kids who mess up. When they do something bad, it's always traced back to me. I don't know why, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't want to be a bad daughter, but he's acting like I'm the worst kid ever. Why. Why do I have to do everything to not even pass the bar. Only because he's mad at my mom, it's my fault apparently, everything is.
I rarely speak to him, my mom says he's taking it out on me whenever they argue. I don't get why it's aimed at me, I didn't do anything wrong. I'm a good kid. It feels like I'm the one going crazy and seeing things as they aren't. I just don't understand. Please, any advice would be a lot of help.