u/HoneyTeeCakes

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Me and my ex (23M), boyfriend at the time, lived with my brother (23M) for a year and the entire time my brother was flirting with my ex the whole time. We finally moved out on on our own a couple of months ago after my brother laid his hands on me with my ex, his twin brother, and his older brother (33M) in the house. It wasn't bad living with my brother for the first 6 months but then my brother got back together with his boyfriend (35M) and everything went downhill, especially after my brother disappeared and moved in with his boyfriend for 4 months. During those 4 months, me and my ex were left to take care of my brother's house and dog. After a while, I had to threaten to take my brother's dog to the animal shelter just for my brother to pretend to give a crap about his dog. I took care of his dog for months without him texting me back.

After a while my brother's boyfriend broke up with him and my brother had choice but to move back into his house. My ex and I said fine whatever because we knew we couldn't tell my brother that he couldn't live in his own house and that's when the real problems started. My ex and I both work at Taco Bell and we don't make a lot of money. When my brother moved back in, my ex and I were choosing between paying bills and having a roof over our heads or buying food to eat. It was winter and we chose heating for our shivering cats rather than food for us to eat. My brother had foodstamps before he moved in with his boyfriend and let it lapse while he was living there. My brother kept complaining that there wasn't food in the house, but refused to go to a food pantry or get his foodstamps reinstated. This was a huge issue for me because both me and my ex were working ourselves out of a massive hole and all my brother did was complain and eat every bit of food I bought for the house before I'd even get the chance to eat a single pizza roll myself.

While living at my brother's house I was borrowing and using his boyfriend's car to get to and from work. This car had so many issues going on and my brother and his boyfriend both kept ignoring my warnings about the car being close to breaking down until it actually did break down and I refused to drive it. On top of the behavior from them of not even looking at the vehicle, my brother snatched the car from me right before one of my shifts in December. I can't prove it, but I do believe my brother was thinking that me and my ex were lying about how often we were working because within a week my brother gave me back the keys. I ended up blocking my brother on everything around this time because he decided to send me a paragraph over messenger right before I was supposed to head into work in an attempt to make me have a meltdown at work and lose my job.

Since we moved out in March, my brother has made 200+ calls to the cops making false claims about my ex's older brother domestically abusing me. My name was never directly used in the calls, but my address was. My ex's twin's car was implicated in false reports of vadilism and trespassing. The problem is that car is from Advantage and if you don't know how Advantage works, that car has a tracker in it and that car hasn't been to my brother's house since the day we moved out.

I cheated on my ex with his older brother and I hate myself for it, but we came clean and told my ex everything. My ex was understandably hurt and upset, but there's no bad blood between us. I'm pregnant by my ex's older brother and I just found out myself. I'm not sure how my brother found out I was pregnant, but he immediately called the cops and claimed I was mentally incompetent woman who the older brother took advantage of. The thing is I am autistic and I do struggle with mental health issues, but despite my history of psych ward visits I have never been seen as incompetent. Not even after I spent 6 months in the state psych hospital. I've since learned how to adapt and live with my issues on my own to the point where I haven't taken medication or gone to the psych ward in 5 years.

My biggest concern is 200+ calls to the cops in 2 months isn't concern, it shows a dangerous level of obsession.