Single mom attempting to get back out there
This is a very touchy topic for me but I’m really needing some advice or success stories from those who have been through something similar. I am trying to put myself out there and start dating again after being in a 2 year abusive relationship. I have 3 kids, 3 different fathers. The first one I dated in high school, he was a serial cheater (found out the last time he cheated she was literally a child, so a pedophile too), the second sexually assaulted me which resulted in me becoming pregnant, the 3rd one we talked about being in a serious relationship (he was in the middle of getting a divorce). He ended up getting me pregnant then ghosted me and shortly got another woman pregnant. I absolutely understand that dating is going to be sooo much harder for me. I know my situation is very complex and I’ve since grown and evolved. What sucks is I hear so many people tell me that someone will come along and love me and my kids, they are shocked I’m single, etc. While I am flattered to hear these things it doesn’t negate the fact that I am judged at the face value of my situation. The last guy I was talking to I was very honest about my situation from the beginning, he just asked me if I wanted more kids, I told him I would have to get married to that person before having another child. We continued talking he never mentioned that my situation would be problematic (I think because I strictly coparent with 1/3, one is a deadbeat and the 3rd only pays child support & doesn’t attempt to have a relationship with his child)… anyways 3 weeks later, things shifted I brought it up and he said things weren’t going to work out because I had 3 kids by 3 different men and he thinks I talk to them about things outside of the kids. I was taken aback because I figured he would’ve said something when it was mentioned in the beginning. Also we never met in person because he lives 8 hours away.
Anyways, I’m really just looking for some solid advice. The dating pool sucks as it is and I had little hope from the start but now I have almost no hope.