I need advice regarding my 7 year old
I feel like a big fail right now. My 7 year old has been having major talking back episodes and not answering my question with an answer but with a question. If you knew my son up until the age of 7 you would have never thought I would be going through this now. I don’t even recognize this kid. Everything is an argument, everything is a fight, everything is a problem. We have been in therapy with him and the therapist say the same thing his teachers say and anyone else who interacts with him. “He’s perfect” “great amazing kid” yeah except to his parents. What happened this evening triggered me so bad, I asked him to please put my phone on the charger while I was doing the dishes, he said “well my iPad is charging” I said well that’s fine you aren’t going to use your iPad the rest of the night so before we go to bed we will put it on the charger but now I really need my phone charged. He hits me back with “well why? What do you need to use your phone for tonight”.
I’m exhausted. It seems so little but it’s all day every day. ALL DAY. Everything is an argument. everything. I’m drained. Is it the iPad? Is it you tube? Am I ruining him by letting him have the iPad and YouTube and Roblox? We limit everything, we monitor everything but when he gets “grounded” he doesn’t have his iPad and in those like 4 days he like resets and is so nice and sweet again. Then the weekend comes he gets everything back and we’re back to square one. I don’t know what to do. All his cousins and friends have iPad and Roblox and all that do I deprive him of it? It’s like it’s making him angry. I feel like I can’t even fully get my thoughts together right now to explain more how drained I am of the constant arguing and complaining about everything, I just sat and cried and cried tonight.