One more baby suckers
Anyone else out there in a similar boat?
My wife wants a divorce after 11 years, and I am devastated. I have not been a perfect husband, but I've acknowledged at least some of my mistakes, attempted to make amends for them, and, critically, not repeated them. My wife has never admitted ANY mistakes. She discontinued the services of two marriage therapists after their first constructive criticism of her behavior.
So, I knew she was a narcissist and decided I could deal with that. I was so wrong. She used me as a sperm donor. In explaining why she wants out, she keeps saying things like "we were never right together" and "this was a long time coming". But we have 3 kids together, and they were all IVF! We had a decent sex life (at least the first few years) but we met in our late 30s and our health insurance covered most of the cost, so we froze embryos to negate the risk of birth defects, which rise exponentially with the age of the mother's eggs.
Our youngest is 2 years old. My wife thought the marriage was doomed when she convinced (pleaded and pleasured) me to sign the legal consent to transfer that frozen embryo into her uterus. I love my daughter with all my heart, and it's devastating to know both that I will never see her on a daily basis again, and that she was created under a veil of deceit. I thought bringing her to life was a recommitment to the marriage. But it was just my narcissist wife loving pregnancy and babies. As a person, I wasn't a factor.
My wife already has a new man. He makes 3 times as much money as I do. My wife asked for a divorce one month after I was laid off from a long-term job. Our children are 8, 5 and 2. Love is blind, and I am a fool.