u/Hopeful-Secretary807

Hi everyone,
I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (28M) for about 6 years now. Overall, our relationship is really solid — we get along well, support each other, and he’s genuinely a good partner in most areas.
The issue is our sex life.
From the beginning, it’s been a bit lacking, but I think I ignored it because everything else felt so right. He doesn’t really engage in foreplay, and sex itself usually lasts around 5 minutes max. Afterward, there’s no real aftercare or attention to my needs, which leaves me feeling unsatisfied and honestly a bit disconnected.
Another concern is how much things have changed over time. Earlier in the relationship, he used to be able to go multiple times in a night. Now, intimacy has dropped to maybe once or twice a month. I’m not sure if this is normal after being together for so long, or if it’s something we should be more concerned about.
I haven’t communicated this as clearly as I probably should have, but I think we’ve reached a point where it’s affecting how I feel in the relationship.
From a guy’s perspective — what can he do to improve? How can he learn to satisfy a woman better (foreplay, communication, stamina, etc.)? And for anyone who’s been in a long-term relationship, is this kind of drop in intimacy normal after 6 years?
Any advice would really help.
Thanks.