u/HopefulFrosting1891

My bf ‘19M’ refuses to sit with me ‘19F’ on the train because my friend is there

Basically me and my boyfriend have been going through a rough time because he doesn’t have time for me. I told him it’s ok and i settled but he’s been so rude and impatient w me lately. We’ve been good for only 2 days and tonight we found out we’re both going to the same city tomorrow from the same station around the same time. Last time I saw him was beginning of march and we’re not long distance or anything he’s just that busy. Since we graduated highschool i’ve only seen him 4 times. I got all excited saying omg take the same time train as me we can sit together and finally see each other. I said my friend will already be on it cause her stop is before ours he said “nah”. If she’s there i’m leaving and not sitting with u. I said why and he wouldn’t tell me because he has a bad habit of not communicating he just kept saying “i just don’t like her”. I said that can’t be enough of a reason to not sit with your gf i mean the train is only half hour i really want to see you. He just kept saying no until he brought up her being comfortable saying bad things about him which is not true. We had this conversation months ago and i already cleared that it was a misunderstanding so he’s like ok then nth happened i said ya so can you sit with me?? he still said nah i don’t like her. And i just want to know it im crazy because i begged this man and asked why is your dislike for her more than your love for me I dont get it. He said “okay word it however you’d like”. I tried calling him begging him to just talk to me and he was declining my call saying i just wanna sleep and u was crying he knew that because this convo started on a game in voice chat before we got off and i started to text him about it because i left the game. He kept declining my calls and sent me a link in our messages to a reel that said “female drama” and it was it a man breaking his phone while a woman talked on it and he walked away. Just let me know if i’m causing drama because I never yelled I only talk about my feelings when he never changes and continues to take advantage of the fact that I always forgive him. He’s always watching me cry and does nothing about it even though each time the night after he wakes up and promises he won’t do it again. I know overall he sounds terrible but i just want to know it i messed up with expecting him to still sit with me.

TLDR: My bf that I never see because he’s always busy refuses to sit next to take the perfect opportunity to sit with me on a train for half hour as we’re both coincidentally going to the same place on the same day and time. All because my friend he doesn’t like for no reason at all is gonna be in the train with me. He told me off in a rude way and even though I begged he said he won’t sit with me and said i cause too much drama because i got upset.

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u/HopefulFrosting1891 — 12 days ago

Me and my bf have been together a few months but have been best friends for 2 years. My birthday is the day after tomorrow and for so long my bf has been telling me about what we’re going to do and that he has so much planned for me. This was special to me because i don’t come from a very loving or caring family and i never do anything on my birthday. Just today he told me he can’t take me out on my birthday anymore. He said because there’s this religious/cultural event we have in the beginning of may and my bfs family has like a kinda business they supply restaurants i guess? Anyway they don’t have anyone working for them it’s only their family so my bf being the oldest son is expected to help. During this event there’s a lot of food so they’ll be getting big orders so he said he needs to help. I know work comes first but I just wish he never got my expectations so high. And it hurts even more because he’s been so busy i’ve been begging for him just to send me a simple text before he sleeps. He works morning to night and we used to talk so often now it feels like he couldn’t care less about me so this whole birthday thing is messing with my head. He said he’ll do another day but I hate that for once I thought i’d feel special on my birthday. I just need to know how to get over this because i know i can’t be mad at him. (btw idk why but my few friends and cousins are somehow all on vacation at this time)

tl;dr: my bf told me he’ll take me out on my bday then said he can’t last minute because his family’s business will be getting big orders around the time of a religious/cultural celebration close to my birthday.

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u/HopefulFrosting1891 — 23 days ago