u/Hopeful_Boat

I’m at my wits end with my partner of 10 years. We have a toddler together and while he’s a good father, he’s a shitty husband. He speaks to me abusively, always trying to combat me, and even did it in front of his mother this past weekend who was appalled. I don’t feel loved, and constantly feeling like I’m walking on eggshells with him. He goes to therapy but refuses medication, and his therapy is so expensive that he contributes nothing to our mortgage or child’s daycare- this is after being unemployed for a year and a half while I literally paid for everything and had to BEG him to recognize what I was doing to keep our lives afloat; not even a thank you until I had a shitfit over it. I have a lawyer, I’m just having the hardest time making the call to serve him the papers. Is there ever a “ready” feeling or is it just something you have to rip the band aid off?