u/Hopeful_Virus_5460 — reddlx

For context I have been dating this man for around 5 months and known him for 8 months. I will list out all the issues we have had

While we were talking he was liking some of his ex girlfriend’s posts and she had requested me on LinkedIn and he did not tell me who she was. Mind you she was talking poorly about me at work (I happen to work with her and I didn’t know who she was prior to this). When confronted he said he didn’t know why he did it and it was mindless and he has not talked to her in years.
A few months into dating (like month 4) I had made a joke that may have been taken the wrong way to his friend about missing the game. Told him about it and the whole day he was upset and kept bringing it up and talking down on me with it in front of his friends to the point I ended up crying at a bar with his friends. He apologized and said he would get over it.
A few weeks after this we are celebrating a few friends accomplishments — my friend who was doing his own thing and my boyfriend’s friend who was celebrating elsewhere. Mind you this man had 8 shots and a few drinks so my boyfriend was upset I wasn’t giving my friends number away and it got to the point where he was calling me a bad friend and upsetting me. I ended up giving him the number and my phone died. Proceeded to tell him I was gonna go to my friends celebration and he said well your phone is dead so my friends take precedence over yours. Continued to be an ass about paying for stuff. Then later when he said are you okay and I said I’m not having this conversation with you when you are drunk and tired he proceeded to get upset at me and think I was gonna break up with him. Later on while we are trying to eat dinner he is using the fact he paid for 2 of my drinks against me and dinner (it was like 26$ total) and then said he outs in effort into me and he should stop. I proceeded to say I’m going home and he then apologized and said you can’t go basically grabbing my phone out of my hand.
Now the whole week after (3) he was acting weird and not treating me like his girlfriend so I kept telling him that he needs to put in effort. I also went a little crazy and started sending him girls accounts he followed demanding explanations (they were not new follows). I ended up apologizing but he still was acting strange.
2 weeks after (4), I have a convo about us arguing saying we need to do things or activities and he needs to stop drinking since that weekend he had showed up black out at my apartment an hr late and thought I was gonna break up with him and that he didn’t deserve me. The Sam day after this convo I get invited to hang with his friends but I said I might not go if I have better plans come up near my apartment. I did and I went out with my friends I had said I didn’t want to drink till my bday but I ended up having 3 drinks tht night over the span of 5 hours. He didn’t like that I went to a different bar after my official plan with my friend and started being upset and passive aggressive then started blowing up my phone and sending texts like come here or I’ll come there calling me a liar bc of the drinking and saying I was drunk when I wasn’t. It got to the point where I said get your shit together I’m not entertaining this and kept blowing my phone up. The next day I requested space and he still was texting calling and saying we should see each other. I said no I need space didn’t always respond and it got to the point where he was shaking from anxiety and throwing up and crying once I picked up his call. I said I was going out with my roommate and her bf and his friends and I did that but kept him updated as to what I was doing. He went to bed and when I got home (5 am) he texted saying he saw I just got home and called me saying it’s unfair. We had a convo about seeing eachother the next day and he came over and took someway accountability but kept thinking I was gonna break up with him and was insecure.

I have no idea what I should do about this. Break up or not break up? I feel like I could give him another chance and I made it clear I would leave him if this happened again or if something went wrong like this but I also realize when I asked for space and he didn’t give it it was scary he didn’t listen and kept threatening to come over to my apartment and try to talk to me.