My friend and her husband had their first baby a few months ago. Before they had their kid her husband was nonchalant about having kids and had told her he didn't feel strongly about having a kid or not. My friend was the one who had given him the ultimatum about getting married (they had dated many years) and seemed to be the main person who led the decision to have a baby since her husband said he's okay with it either way. I always thought that if a man wasn't like "oh I would love to to be a dad/I've always wanted to be a dad" that he wouldn't be as involved as the mom. I was worried that my friend would have a big burden postpartum. However, when the baby came her husband was so great with it! When I saw them he was beaming and is so good at handling their infant and feeding and changing him. He seems very attentive and she tells me he takes on all the childcare when she is at work and as first time parents they don't even seem stressed.
I'm really happy for them and I'm wondering if many others have had this experience of the dad not caring about having kids but becoming really involved after the birth? I guess I'm asking because I've heard a scary stories about dads not contributing to the childcare even though the mom is still recovering from giving birth. I guess its one of my fears when thinking about potentially becoming parent one day.