u/Horror_Nectarine_327

If black people were 1% of the population then would you not care about segregation?If only 10 black people visited a shop in a year then would you care if they banned all black people from entering? Trans girls can be banned from school and college sports teams according to this decision in many republican states.It also excluded women who had taken hormones,pass very well or have no advantage over an average woman.

Laws give legitimacy in the eyes of the public and help in social acceptance.Support for gay marriage increased rapidly after legalisation.Trans women who already have such high depression rate can now be legally segregated from playing sports and we know that social acceptance would help in reducing the suicide rate.

Dean should engage in the trans debate instead of saying why do you care about such a small percent of the population.

According to Merriam-Webster someone is described as "performative" when their actions, words or emotions are done primarily for show to impress others or curate a specific image,rather than being sincere and authentic.Some people argue that everyone is a little performative.When you are new to something in the starting you will have to be a little performative untill you transform into the very thing you were performing.Others say it is better to be performative while doing a good thing than doing nothing at all(Mr. Beast).Just like most people think that a majority of politicians are liars who don't actually care about their principles and care more about money,fame and power.Most people think a lot of youtube apologies are insincere and half hearted.

I think one of the reasons haters think Dean is performative is because sometimes he uses incel [used as synonym for misogynist] terminology(alt right anti feminist in nature)unironically or uses them at all in a serious debate live.He body shames bald guys and was making a joke about Trump's Penis size (ungraceful but more dark woke adjacent).Interested in crypto (most people on the left think crpto is a scam). Sometimes it feels like he is shitting on guys to impress the women in his audience.

Performative male "feminist" (right believes every male who is a feminist is performative as they cannot conceive of a male who genuinely believes in the ideals of feminism) is not just a feminist who happens to be a male or just a feminist who believes in equal rights for all genders and liberation of people from the patriarchy and is very sincerely committed to the cause and extends solidarity to women.He has very surface level knowledge of feminism who just wants to impress women and sleep with them.

People expect more principles and morally righteous behavior from advocates of a political cause than people doing regular jobs.

Nobody used to say I am advocating for a cause to make money.No politician would say I want to be the president for fame and power.People think people in politics can have a very significant effect on lives of many and they should be super transparent especially if they are lieing or misleading their audience after accepting donation("scaming the audience").

One reason some people might think Dean is performative is because he is not progressive enough and still believes in a lot of reactionary views or his moral views are not logically consistent.[Maybe he doesn't have "correct" position on a progressive cause].

Some people think that maybe he intellectually believes in his views but not emotionally believes it or sometimes makes statements or jokes which contradict his views. Like a person who believes logically that all human beings have equal moral worth but he might be a racist or do and say racist things unconsciously.

Dean also has a maga family.There is a reason Parker doesn't get called performative as much as Dean.

I think is it abrasive to ask gay men or straight men who is the top or bottom.If they tell you on their own accord then it's fine but in most cases you should not ask as it is a very private matter and you should not assume the answer either.Gay men should not be fetishized and made uncomfortable by women. I know women get accused of fetishizing gay men when they just love that particular romance series.And women love a romace show with less misogyny, traditional gender roles and more equal partnership.Women also love the settings and world building with less homophobia and misogyny present in these romace shows.

I think the porn industry as it is now is highly unethical.It is a hub for human trafficking,sexual violence and leads to dehumanization of women.Most of the onlyfans models and sex workers are from lower socio-economic class.Most women on Onlyfans make around $ 200 I believe and only the top earning models make millions.

Some people call prostitution the oldest profession.People didn't hate on porn as much as they hate on Onlyfans.Pornstars had even less autonomy on their income and things they would be comfortable in performing.I believe you cant buy consent(my opinion) when it relates to sex and it is coercion.I know some people would say there is no ethical consumption under capitalism.People bring the example of coal mining.I think it is worse to coerce someone to do something sexually.And I believe it would be a good thing if all the super "hard working jobs" that is jobs that lower life expectancy or quality of life got automated.The industry would not exist if the demand didn't exist. It is very hard for women who worked in the industry to get another job and it lowers their life expectancy.

I think it is better to read smutt books,manga or hentai than watch porn.

BTW I think shipping people in real life or sexualising friendships if they are uncomfortable with it is wrong.It is different for fictional characters.

I think the Karen meme was originally used to refer to a middle aged entitled racist white woman who harrased people of colour and the term originated in the black community.

But now the term is used by people to refer to women whenever they are being assertive,showing anger or discomfort and if you disagree with her political views.Liberal/Leftist men call maga women who have internalized misogyny or brainwashed by the religion that they should have less leadership roles Karen all the time.

They think it is okay to be misogynistic if the woman doesn't agree with their political views.Just like how Liberal/Leftist men would say misogynistic things and use the word "white women" instead of women.

Girls used to think "boys"(interchangeable with men) are super cool.They don't care about their looks and have great friendships("Bros before hoes" ).Girls used to believe girl friendships are catty and they talk about makeup (eww) and pink(cringe).Every girl had a I hate pink phase. A lot of girls wanted to be one of the guys and I am only friends with the guys because of less drama.Guys didn't care about handwriting and doing homework(it was considered cool) and girls were annoying teacher's pet. It was the cool girl syndrome or not like the other girls.I know a lot of it was due to internalized misogyny and hating everything feminine.Many girls believed in the girls and boys stereotypes.

Now girls think most men are misogynist manosphere guys who complain about feminism and are crypto scam artist.They talk about who is or is not a "real" man .They talk about how upset they are that men are becoming "less" masculine[why do you care?].Now girls think most men are obsessed with getting a girlfriend and getting laid.

Girls used to think men are cool and now they think most of them are chuds.

I sometimes miss the old days😅.

I think talking to him only gives him a bigger platform which I think he doesn't deserve.He said that he would be happy if Dean died right after Dean told him his house was swatted.I am so sorry to hear what happened to him and hope his girlfriend is safe.

I hope Dean is doing okay and wish him happiness 😊.

I am a feminist. And while I do believe that objectifying women is more harmful because of historical context and current overall systemic harmful effects.I don't believe objectifying and oversexualising a political debater is a good thing.I am specifically talking about the trolls that say overally weird and sexual things to his face.Talking about masturbating to him is very inappropriate and borderline sexual harrasment.

I am not saying that compliments like Dean you are handsome,good looking,cute etc is too much.But specially some trolls are saying very uncomfortable and weird shit to his face.

This needs to stop.

I think everyone can have different preferences in terms of the music one likes.But I don't think there is a need to explicitly convey that overall you are a hater.Everything that has a huge female audience automatically becomes lame for some reason. Whether it is k dramas,fanfiction to romance novels.Especially right wing guys attack things they perceive as a "feminine" hobby. Do you guys remember how Donald Trump posted I HATE TAYLOR SWIFT last election.

I think real swifties should not tolerate the disrespect.Btw I am not a Swifty.