Hi everyone. This is a shit story that I’m sure many can relate to. 2025 was the year of herpes in my life.
In 2017 I found out I have hsv1. Was shocked at first but got over it quickly and never really cared. Figured I got it as a kid but now realizing the swine flu I thought I had in 2009 was likely my initial hsv1 infection. I kissed my boyfriend in high school while he had cold sores. I was dumb and didn’t know it was actually a very contagious herpes outbreak. Fast forward to 2024. Got my first notable mean cold sore on my face. Fast forward to 2025. Transferred it to my boyfriend’s genitals. Had unprotected sex with him all the time and shortly after his outbreak. Two months later my best friend tells me she found out she has hsv2 and is asymptomatic. Two months later her ex tells me he has hsv2. Found out the source where she got it.
Fast forward to now 2026, I’m no longer with my ex. Had a one night stand with a very OLD friend. My best friend tells me she thinks he sleeps with men and that he has HIV, herpes and warts. Well, he doesn’t have hiv because I saw all of his STD tests he took before we slept together. Turns out his doctor tested him for “herpes 1 & 2 PCR DNA-serum”. Well I spiral from here because I didn’t realize at first it’s the wrong test. He doesn’t plan on getting an antibody test due to his doctors suggestion. Regardless, only my test matters from here. I understand transmission rates to a degree. Protection wasn’t used. It was a really stupid mistake.
I got tested a week after for everything, 3 weeks after and 1 month after. Everything is negative. Except my hsv1 result of course.
My partner claims he’s never had an outbreak and that everyone he’s been with has tested negative. He hasn’t had many life partners. Being the realistic person i am, none of this means a thing.
I know everyone will say test at 12 weeks. And I am. But I have been diagnosed with OCD and I can’t stay off Reddit and Google and everywhere else just looking for someone to tell me I’m not going to end up with hsv2. I am NOT worried about hsv2 as a whole but I am soo worried about getting it from a meaningless one night stand. My family is ready to lock me away and commit me. I don’t know why I’m writing this here actually because all I can do is test and wait. I have no symptoms, man I slept with has no symptoms and claims to have never had any symptoms. He knew I had hsv1 but once I told him about giving it to my exs genitals, he then got paranoid about me giving it to him genitally.
Am I crazy and just spiraling? I’ve convinced myself I have hsv2 with no proof or reasoning why. He was confident he doesn’t have herpes until I pointed out the incorrect test but he doesn’t even care to test anymore unless he has an actual outbreak.
My doctor thinks I’m overreacting and that I’ll be fine.