u/Horror_pink_8622

i (24, F) notice that when i talk to somebody i really like and i find out that they’re talking to somebody else, or even dating around, texting girls, i instantly withdrawal myself and im like “ok u can have him” no matter how good the guy is. i somewhat view it as a form of self sabotage. i guess it’s because when i talk to somebody, i only expect them to be talking to me but most guys just aren’t like that. logically, i believe it’s okay to date around and meet different people but emotionally, i cannot handle it. anyone have advice? i was talking to chat and it said it’s a form of preemptive rejection and comparison. i automatically tell myself “oh he’s been talking to another girl? well i’ll just make it easier for him and remove myself.” my thought process is a nut shell ^_^ ( this refers to dating that has not been labeled as exclusive )