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I’m wondering about what all do you think about confronting directly if you like someone or just cold approaching someone you find attractive. I’m done with this constant self-rejection. Even the dating apps seem to be more of a trap since they barely work and are built in a way to keep
You searching for more. Whenever I go out to cyberhub, galleria or malls (DLF noida/Saket Select city etc.) I see even average or below average looking guys beg really pretty women I really don’t get where are they getting them from do they know them from before or like where do they even meet from. I never understood where do they all get them from but if it was dating app then it would only be impossible for them to get that pretty women. I just feel lost in life and don’t understand about what should I even do regarding the same.

I’m wondering about what all do you think about confronting directly if you like someone or just cold approaching someone you find attractive. I’m done with this constant self-rejection. Even the dating apps seem to be more of a trap since they barely work and are built in a way to keep
You searching for more. Whenever I go out to cyberhub, galleria or malls (DLF noida/Saket Select city etc.) I see even average or below average looking guys get really pretty women I really don’t get where are they getting them from do they know them from before or like where do they even meet from. I never understood where do they all get them from but if it was dating app then it would only be impossible for them to get that pretty women. I just feel lost in life and don’t understand about what should I even do regarding the same.

I think the bypass I was trying to use worked untill and unless I tried verifying myself for my id they banned me after that point it feels like they have some algorithm or have changed something about the app earlier I was able to bypass by just changing my photos and some other basic details I’m not sure on how they were able to ban me again on the phone despite surpassing most of the check they have.

This is what they responded when I asked for an unban or delete my data
“””Hello there,

Thank you for your message. We are pleased to respond and address your requests.

Account Ban

We can confirm that the account associated with the email address from which you contacted us was banned based on report(s) that Hinge received from other member(s) regarding conduct on, or off, the app. However, providing further detail as to the timing, circumstances, and/or contents of the report(s) Hinge received would likely reveal the identity of the individual(s) who made the report(s), and we are accordingly unable to disclose this information.

Your ban and appeal were subject to human review by Hinge's Trust & Safety team, and the ban was upheld. For the avoidance of doubt, your ban was subsequently re-reviewed by a senior member of Hinge’s Trust & Safety team upon receipt of your correspondence, and they determined that the ban is appropriate. This decision is informed and final, and we are not in a position to reinstate your account.

We note your reference to the IT (Intermediary Guidelines and Digital Media Ethics Code) Rules, 2021, including the requirement that intermediaries act fairly and transparently. By its Terms of Use–which all users affirmatively accept at account onboarding–Hinge reserves the right to investigate and, if appropriate, suspend or terminate an account if it determines that a user has violated the Terms, misused Hinge's services, or behaved in a way that Hinge regards as inappropriate or unlawful, on or off the service. Hinge’s Terms further state: “You understand and agree that we may not share information with you regarding your account, including the reason for your account ban, if doing so would potentially impair the safety or privacy of our other users.”
The ban on your account was imposed following receipt of user report(s) and a human review process consistent with these Terms, and the ban notification and in-app appeal mechanism through which you submitted your appeal constitute the procedural safeguards afforded to you under Hinge's Terms and applicable law.

Deletion Request

Regarding your request for deletion of your personal data under the Digital Personal Data Protection Act, 2023 (DPDPA), please note that the DPDPA does not become fully operative until May 2027. Notwithstanding this, Hinge addresses your request in good faith.

The right to deletion under applicable privacy law is not absolute. It is subject to restrictions that allow a business like Hinge to retain personal data despite a deletion request where the business has lawful grounds to do so. When an account is banned, Hinge has a compelling interest in retaining the associated account information, including searchable identifiers such as account credentials, for the purposes of complying with applicable law, defending itself in the event a customer care action is ultimately challenged, and protecting its members by helping to prevent banned members from creating new accounts. In these circumstances, we note that Hinge’s reasons for retaining banned member data align with the purposes for which Hinge collects and uses data, in accordance with the DPDPA. Indeed, as explained in Section 4 of Hinge’s Privacy Policy, Hinge uses data to, e.g.: (i) keep members safe on our service by preventing, detecting, and fighting against violations of our Terms, fraud, and other illegal or unauthorized activities, including preventing recurrences; and (ii) comply with applicable law, and establish, exercise, and defend our legal claims & rights. Premature deletion or anonymisation would hinder these lawful and legitimate objectives. We are therefore satisfied that these purposes constitute lawful and legitimate grounds for continued retention, consistent with applicable law.

In practice, this means that following an account ban, Hinge retains the account data, including user generated content, profile information, and app usage information, for up to two years following the ban. This period is referred to as the "safety retention window" that allows Hinge to retain information that may be necessary to investigate harmful or unlawful conduct on the service.
The right to deletion under applicable privacy law is not absolute. It is subject to restrictions that allow a business like Hinge to retain personal data despite a deletion request where the business has lawful grounds to do so. When an account is banned, Hinge has a compelling interest in retaining the associated account information, including searchable identifiers such as account credentials, for the purposes of complying with applicable law, defending itself in the event a customer care action is ultimately challenged, and protecting its members by helping to prevent banned members from creating new accounts. In these circumstances, we note that Hinge’s reasons for retaining banned member data align with the purposes for which Hinge collects and uses data, in accordance with the DPDPA. Indeed, as explained in Section 4 of Hinge’s Privacy Policy, Hinge uses data to, e.g.: (i) keep members safe on our service by preventing, detecting, and fighting against violations of our Terms, fraud, and other illegal or unauthorized activities, including preventing recurrences; and (ii) comply with applicable law, and establish, exercise, and defend our legal claims & rights. Premature deletion or anonymisation would hinder these lawful and legitimate objectives. We are therefore satisfied that these purposes constitute lawful and legitimate grounds for continued retention, consistent with applicable law.

In practice, this means that following an account ban, Hinge retains the account data, including user generated content, profile information, and app usage information, for up to two years following the ban. This period is referred to as the "safety retention window" that allows Hinge to retain information that may be necessary to investigate harmful or unlawful conduct on the service.

Following the expiration of the safety retention window, we delete most account information. However, we retain limited data for longer periods for lawful and legitimate purposes. For example, we retain:
Transaction data, if applicable, for ten years, to comply with tax and accounting legal obligations;
Customer care records and supporting data, for five years, to support our safety efforts and customer care decisions, enforce our rights, and enable us to defend ourselves in the event of a claim;
Records of consents that members give us, for five years, to comply and evidence our compliance with applicable law; and
Data necessary to prevent members who were banned from opening a new account (including account credentials and the reason for the ban), for as long as necessary, to ensure the safety and vital interests of our members.
We are satisfied that our retention of personal data, as set forth above and in Section 9 of our Privacy Policy, is appropriate and necessary to achieve the lawful and legitimate purposes for which the data is retained, and that these purposes override a data subject's right to have their data deleted. Please be assured that Hinge only uses the data it retains following an account closure for the purposes outlined in Section 9 of the Privacy Policy.

We trust that this response addresses your requests. For additional information regarding your data subject rights, please refer to Section 8 of Hinge's Privacy Policy.

Best,
Max Hinge Trust & Safety”””

Graduating from Plaksha University has been a deeply disappointing experience for me, and one that I genuinely regret. As a relatively new institution, many foundational aspects were missing there was no vibrant coding culture, minimal extracurricular opportunities, and almost no sense of an engaging social environment, leading to a constant feeling of missing out compared to peers at more established institutions (IIITH, BITs, IITs , Vit, thapar etc.). I have recently got placed and doing my internship right now. From what I see in the industry even people from vit manipal are working at the same companies so there is no clear advantage in placements. All the companies visiting plaksha go to other colleges as well [https://www.thapar.edu/placements\](https://www.thapar.edu/placements) (Can check the link for Thapar , VIT etc.) and companies visiting at plaksha are mainly from founders group none of the major big mnc like google,amazon, apple etc. visits the campus by itself (They visit VIT, Thapar). This year Apple has visited Thapar and VIT for hiring, mainly for folks who claim plaksha is superior (Placements is not at all comparable to most of the top tier institutions of India or even prominent private institutions). Also from what I have noticed alot of kids joining are from rich background and get placed based on their own personal connections which later on is advertised by the institute itself.

While the faculty credentials and curriculum may appear impressive on paper, the actual quality of teaching often fell short, especially for advanced subjects like machine learning and deep learning (Started past major selection), where clarity and guidance are crucial. Instead of enriching learning, these courses often became unnecessarily difficult due to poor delivery. A major concern throughout my time was the lack of accountability from the leadership, particularly the Vice Chancellor and the academic administration. When students raised concerns about grading, teaching quality, or course structure, the responsibility was often shifted back onto students, with labels like “weak student” being used rather than addressing systemic issues. They also don't care much about students who are lack behind in any of the semester or face issues academically. I had a 8+ cg in the first 1.5 years of my bachelor's later on I struggled due to poor deliver and support from Plaksha side. It felt very depressing since there was insane level of comparison going on within the institute for grades and it felt more of a cram school rather than any real learning happening. (This is personal choice some people might like the cram and learning through assignments/quizzes etc. other's might like more practical and hands-on approach through clubs/societies which actively participate in competitions they should any-day go-to other private institutions with established clubs/societies). Often a lot of exceptionally well doing students from the start used to team up together leaving weak or avg doing students with no support in academics (Some of them had this ego and there was always a team bias). The grading also was super biased.

There was little to no meaningful support provided to help students improve academically—no structured guidance, remediation, or clear pathways to recover or improve grades. (I tried to requests them repeatedly to provide the improvement examinations but didn't get any support) This inconsistency in teaching, evaluation, and administrative response significantly impacted my GPA and created sustained mental pressure over time, to the point where it affected my overall well-being. It often felt like the system lacked empathy and was not designed to support students through challenges.

Additionally, there was a noticeable lack of concern when it came to placements for the broader student body. Support and attention appeared to be disproportionately directed toward already successful students, while others were largely left to navigate the process on their own. The placement is not better than other private colleges either top percentile of students from other colleges also get similar placements you can check thapar and VIT placement reports. Some Mnc's might visit them as well. Apart from that as stated above alot of students get placed personally through their own connections but then Plaksha puts the same companies in their report. They also do tempering with their reports and report a higher stats for placement whereas some people do even remain unplaced.

At present, as I plan to pursue a master’s program, I am facing the long-term consequences of these issues. The institution and faculty have provided little to no guidance or support in this process, while my GPA—impacted by the factors mentioned above—has made the path significantly more challenging. This has been particularly disheartening, as I see peers from other universities progressing more smoothly in their academic and professional journeys, which at times leaves me feeling discouraged. Professor won't give you an LOR easily and some of them over there have big ego's. They might result in biased grading as well. A foreign phd doesn't means they teach well and instead could make course unexceptional harder. (Could be very hard to get LORs from them too unless you really impress them and work with them for more than year or have a very good gpa)

In hindsight, I believe choosing a more established institution like VIT or Manipal would have provided a far more balanced experience in terms of academics, exposure, and campus life. At plaksha academics is all about exams, assignments and scoring grades. It feels more of a cram school where they are trying to dump alot on students. Other colleges have more hands-on approach through societies/clubs where peer learning happens and you get more exposure as an engineer by participating in prominent competitions. At plaksha people used to stress alot over grades all the time and there was too much peer pressure for nothing. Even the outcomes didn’t feel justified according to the pressure. (Except the exceptional students who scored 9+ cgpa after sitting and studying all the time in their room for all four years of their bachelor's). I strongly urge prospective students to look beyond marketing narratives (Foreign professors, Modern Curriculum and better/tempered placement reports posing they are better then other and carefully evaluate the ground realities before making such an important decision. Please think twice as they won’t take any responsibility after the damage is done and as a student you only will have to suffer the damage done by poorly taught/managed courses. At last everything depends personally on the student but I have had a hard time with the administration over there. They are not at all flexible and have made it worse for the student who are not able to perform well or slack in any of the semester. It might feel like that Plaksha's exceptional curriculum/professors with foreign phds might help but in long run it only helps if you are able to get a high gpa and manage the academics well over there. A normal graduate from a normal private college could do better and get to better places with more balanced experience since getting better gpa over there and making a more balanced profile is much easier. Most of the people commenting here are making comments based on the top 1% of the batch.

I did the course in 1/4th of the cost since I got scholarship. I never understand how and why people join at full fees or without scholarships above 50% since at the same cost they could get much better universities abroad in the European region.

(I’m not a paid promoter like most of the people who post and comment here and again there are pros and cons of every college)