r/Btechtards

My dad is a dairy farmer and always wanted me to become an engineer. I am so happy to make him proud

Just want to hear out something raw

i currently have a dell inspiron 5590 (i5) and i have been using it since 2020 it is slow asf cant open more than 4 tabs and laptop hinge is broken (my mom broke it twice) i am always physically abused by my mother and she hits me for every small thing and just 10 minutes back she was going to hit my sister with a stick.

it has become so normalized for her to hit us that her friends and our relatives everytime they call us and talk to me they says "Last kab maar padi thi".

she recently hit me with a jhaadu 2-3 days ago because i told her to speak softly because my ears hurt when she speaks (she speaks very loudly and so does my dad)

my dad bought a laptop 5 months ago saying it was for his personal use for stocks etc, and now he wants me to use that laptop (i3,512 gb and 8gb ram). i said i cant use it because it wont run properly for my use case (docker, etc) and he said ki what if they dont allow laptop to college

genuinely what the fuck?? engineering college me no laptop (and keep in mind he is a software engineer)

i have met in a few days and i dont wanna give it because i know i wont get cse and my mom started swearing at me saying iska khoon kar do to my dad (m*rd*r him i dont wanna see him again in my life). and she called me worthless because i cant crack met (she thinks its like a board level exam and her friends are fucking idiots who say haan ye exam toh easy hai woh exam toh easy hai)

and my dad has been saying start learning for college so i started c++ because what else would u understand from that. and he meant start learning engineering math so u can be ahead of ur peers

because of which he didnt let me go to the gym cuz i couldnt read his fucking mind

im not getting anything new for college

phone ka battery is fucked up

laptop wont run shit

and they want me to makedo with the clothes i have jisme abhi color bhi chhut ne laga hai

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I am preaty frustrated bec I studied really hard for the test and it went kind of just 'ok' for me, while my friend just cheated in the test.

And it wasent even some high IQ cheat, he just opened two different browser so tab switching wont be detected.

I thought the cheating system was strong enough that this wont happen, but now like what is the point of even preparing for the exam?!?

I am really frusted, like ofc 70% of indian eng are unemployable, since people can just cheat and dont need to actually develop skills.

Did you get a job? How many times (on and off campus) were you rejected?

Mujhe EE bhi mil rahi hai ECE

But EE in better colleges

But I heard EE is bad

Toh what should I do

So as I'm in 3rd year, these are the things I've learned so far as a 3rd year BTech student and from my diploma engineering, and I would like that coming juniors should know this.....

1. These 4 years are gonna decide your whole life, so remember it's not an enjoyment period, it should be your grind era.

2. Distance yourself from everyone, especially from those who make you feel demotivated and say your BTech degree will take you nowhere, they are simply making you like them..... In your first year you're a fresh brain with a lot of dreams and expectations and many assholes will make you question your life choices.... Listen dude, no college is good or bad and neither is it gonna decide your placement and future, it all lies in your own hands, so distance yourself from negative people.

3. Things now I'm gonna tell you, you should note them down right now and stick them somewhere on your wall....

   Things which people say don't matter but really matter:

i) Attendance - If somehow you score low in internal exams, then based on your attendance your professor will give you internal marks cause your attendance shows how serious and attentive you are towards your degree.

ii) Internal Marks - Try to score as high as you can cause if the end sem paper is tough, it will save you from backlog.

iii) Internships - It really matters.... An internship from a reputed institution, organisation or company will enhance your resume.

iv) Projects - Do some good projects.... You can find good projects online and can copy them.... See, projects don't mean you should make something on your own, it means to add in the syllabus so students can learn by creating something which already exists..... Find models and projects related to your domain and learn from them.

v) Skills - Don't waste your time and start learning skills.... You should know at this point that if everybody around you is telling you to learn skills, then how important it really is.

4. Don't Overshare - Nazar is real and I'm the living proof... In my second year I cracked internships in IIT BHU, IIT Jodhpur, IIT Kanpur, IIT Roorkee, IIT Dharwad, IIT Ropar, MNIT Jaipur (4 internships) and BITS Pilani.... But couldn't join any of them and ended up interning at 400KV GSS as whenever I tried to join, some problem came and I had to leave the internship..... So never share, even if it's your best friend (mine cursed me that I wouldn't be able to join any of these internships as I didn't tell him while applying because he was not serious about internships. I started applying for internships 6 months earlier when my classmates were busy playing BGMI, I was emailing professors and doing research).

5. There's a myth that you should make a group of friends and enjoy your college life as it's for enjoying..... People created this mindset so no one wants to do hard work and people rely on each other... Like if my friend will do it, I'll do the same or I won't.... Start enjoying your own company.... Notice in your college, you'll see seniors or people who don't talk or yap with anyone, how much they have grown and achieved as compared to others....

6. Start using people.... It's a do or die scenario..... Use people or they will use you..... Take help for notes, study material or any other stuff you want (it's for people who use and throw you.... Don't use this on people with good nature and a kind heart).

7. Always stay close to one senior and one junior..... For the first year observe everyone and then find a senior who is helpful and has good connections inside and outside campus.... Believe me you'll thank me later for this, and also find a junior who obeys and follows your instructions and guide him on how to survive this college life and how to ignore assholes.

8. Love is crap..... Don't fall for this trap..... All it'll do is waste a lot of your time..... See, girls will never date a boy who is not serious about his future and if you're really serious you'll never fall for girls.... There's a quote, "Stop chasing butterflies and instead build a garden that attracts butterflies", so do gym, work hard, upgrade skills, do good internships and projects, wear good, smell good and eat good.... So the day you'll be graduating, you will be proud of yourself.

9. Respect your parents.... Call them everyday and tell them how much you love them and how grateful you are..... And if possible try for scholarships or do something productive so you can give at least a small amount towards your college fees....

10. Fix a plan and make a target and work accordingly, it is really helpful..... Avoid getting backlogs..... And yes, whatever you do, also get some time for yourself in a week to enjoy and watch some movie, play games, eat your favourite food.... Do whatever you love, just don't die.... Until we meet again....

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