How to cope while/prepare before meeting Ndad at sister’s graduation in a month
It’s been a month since I (38) went no contact with my nfather(58). Not the first time, but the last. Hence why I’m here. Now I’ll have to meet him at my sister’s(18) graduation in a month.
I will go because I’m so proud of my sister and her mother who has supported her as a single mom ever since our father married had kids behind our backs. (Actually the first time I went no contact with him he had done the same and the kid is this young woman now graduating).
Both me and my husband are present adults in her life and there is not a chance I’m missing this big day in her life.
However. He will be there and it will be our first encounter since i went no contact.
I feel a bit anxious. Not sure how to handle the situation. Not sure if I will be able/want to ignore him but also not sure how to behave, not sure how to respond if he lashes out on me in front of everybody at my baby girl’s celebration.
Have you been in similar settings? What worked best for your nervous system before and during that first meeting?