Childhood friend didn’t tell me about her wedding
I have a friend who I’ve known since we were 10. We’re in our 30s now. We were best friends all through primary school and the start of high school before she moved away in our mid-teens.
We kept in contact, we catch up with each other whenever we’re in the same area. I wouldn’t consider us best friends now but there’s definitely still a strong history and sentimentality to our friendship now. We don’t talk everyday, we’re adults with our own lives but we still update each other on major life milestones and events. Or so I thought.
I found out through her Facebook post a few days ago that she had her wedding. I’ll be honest, I’m blindsided that she didn’t even tell me about it let alone not send me an invitation. We told each other when we both got engaged. She was in town when I was proposed to and I even showed her my ring in person when we met up later that evening for some casual drinks. Her partner asked her when they were going to come back for the wedding, I told her I’d let her know when we set the date. When she was proposed to she sent me photos of her ring. We were so excited.
I don’t want to talk to her yet because she might be on her honeymoon, the last thing I want to do is ruin such a special time for her and her husband. But I’m questioning whether I should talk to her about it at all, is it silly of me to have expected an invitation? It would’ve been nice to know it was happening, that she was planning it. She never mentioned wedding plans when we spoke.
I get that we’re not close anymore, that we don’t talk very often and that because of that, maybe I shouldn’t have assumed I’d be included? Every time I think about it I get quite emotional. Would it be inappropriate for me to ask? How should I approach this? When should I bring it up? I’m worried my emotions are getting in the way of my rational thinking.