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I have a Shih Tzu and today he bit and dragged my elder chihuahua by the neck, I have no idea how to fix this behavior. We got him neutered recently so I’ve been blaming that since I read that it takes time for his hormones to stabilize, but the problem is that he has done this for awhile since we got him 1 year ago. Let me know if yall have any ways to train him. I feel like my shihtzu is a smart dog but when it comes to behavioral training all that smartness goes out the window.

Life seemed to be going so good for so long. My friends would literally say they wish they had my parents, and that I had the “perfect parents” but, one day my parents come into my room and it’s my dad looking and my mom and saying”tell them what you did” and she’s asking him to stop. He then says”your mother had an affair with so and so. She then says “stop stop”. He speaks again and says”don’t lie you had sexual relations with him. It was just a horrible night.
But, this was expected to happen already because a while back my father found my mom reacting to someone’s stories with heart eyes. So my dad was already suspicious of them. According to my mother, my dad was always very jealous when he was drunk but she always assured me that she had so many opportunities to cheat and never did it because “she’s not that type of person(this was said on various occasions long before any of this happened).
My mom is known to be calm by her whole family side. When they talk about her I just can’t listen knowing what I know. I mean really?!?! The nicest calmest one of the family would cheat on her partner?? Whatever happened there. My father left one night after that, And came back the next. They decided to stay together although things weren’t looking good still.. they would still argue sometimes.
My mother started confessions at her church and looked for couples therapy, to which she had always said my father would never want to go so, it was weird for her to be looking for a therapist. From then on she was really clingy to my dad, hugging for like 5 minutes while he was still in bed and I’m waiting to leave with her to go to work. But still everything feels off. My father doesn’t even wanna drive past where the guy that my mom cheated with works so any food place passing that is off limits.
It seems like everyone wants to escape the house. My father works most days and drinks till 5am 3 days a week(doesn’t seem like a lot but this is a man who used to drink literally 2 times a month). My sister goes to her friends house everyday. My mom doesn’t drive so once she gets off work she’s home the rest of the day. I go to work and the gym so when I get home my day is over. But, the thing is after all that. I’ve convinced myself I don’t really care about my parents anymore. I don’t know if this is a coping mechanism but, I didn’t want to worry about my dad coming home late from drinking anymore so I’ve just decided to not really give a shit about him anymore. When I see him it’s like I’m hiding in plain sight.. I’ll be “hey dad” and hug him. I do it so obviously he doesn’t know I don’t really care about him.
But this is probably horrible I mean… my parents weren’t bad parents, they were always loving and spoiling us, it’s just I don’t wanna feel this emptiness anymore. I wanna be looking forward to good things. My mother I felt like I have lost all affection towards her..I can’t even hug her. The thing is I’ll act normal around her but I just don’t hug her. I don’t know. I’ve wanted to move out for awhile and the only thing stopping me is that I have 3 dogs that I only take care of. Nobody helps me… I feel stuck most days and I don’t like being a person that ignores their problems but lately I’ve decided to not talk about things that bother me so that’s that.

(UPDATE) today is my fathers surprise party that my moms been planning for a month but the other night my dad didn’t get home till 6am. My little sister is acting rebellious and is almost ruining the surprise because she doesn’t wanna be apart of it…apparently she texted my dad”if you don’t come home right now I am going to cut myself” and he didn’t come home. I don’t know how to feel about this. Everything feels miserable as fuck.. she doesn’t want to participate whatsoever in fixing up the house for the party.

(UPDATE AGAIN) after some thinking I’ve decided ima make this his best fucking birthday. Y’all are right my dad isn’t at fault for any of this and he’s feeling down.. I’m gonna be there for him