I’ve never posted here before, and I could really use some insight, advice or anything at this point.
My MIL has crossed many boundaries with my husband (her son), and now she’s hit way below the belt. I’m distraught, disappointed and absolutely depressed for him. No family is perfect, BUT this is so low.
Long story short, my husband and one of his younger sisters got into an argument about 2 years ago. My SIL just kept digging herself a huge hole with her compulsive lying, talking poorly about him to her children, spreading false information to other family, ignoring our very serious pregnancy loss and even attempted to rope me in numerous times via text or by saying horrible things about him around me to try and bait me. She did this for over a year, and all of it exploded this past December.
My SIL, her twin and my MIL became very drunk at a party, caused an entire scene and roped my husband into it. They asked him to come outside with the 3 of them to talk, and it turned into a really ugly argument. My SIL, her twin and MIL screamed at him, yelled at him, blamed him (even though nothing has been his fault — I would definitely admit if my husband was in the wrong), and my SIL’s twin even smacked and hit my husband numerous times drunkenly and frustrated. He tried leaving the situation many times, but my MIL and SIL’s twin physically blocked him from leaving the toxic situation. He was finally able to exit after scooting my SIL’s twin out of the way, but she was so freaking drunk that she fell over. She’s a fool and has a serious alcohol problem.
My husband and I learned a couple days ago from his brother that my MIL is telling many people in the family that he “pushed” or “put hands” on his sister, which is so not true. She is making him the villain and monster to protect her daughters’ toxicity and dysfunction. I am absolutely disgusted at how she would throw her son under the bus to preserve her daughters’ atrocious behavior. I also know this is classic narcissistic behavior — focusing on someone’s reaction versus the situation they created.
I want nothing to do with any of these women. I don’t accept behavior like this from ANYONE. Neither does my husband, but apparently his brother is seeking a family therapist so everyone can work it out. Ohh, but of course, my MIL was attempting to hire a “therapist” who is either connected to her daughters or her, most likely so they can continue to manipulate them and continue with their false narrative to look innocent.
My husband has talked about removing himself from the family entirely. I don’t get too involved because this is his family, but I voice my opinion and have shared that it seems like the healthiest option. My MIL is out of control. She acts like she did nothing wrong when she allowed her girls to be physically, verbally and emotionally abusive towards my husband. The funny part is… this is not the first time they have treated other family members this way. They are so toxic. I honestly can’t with them anymore.
What would you do?? I want to block all of them and basically tell them to leave us alone. It’s been 16 years of their craziness, and it has just reached a point of no return for me.