u/Hot-Catch5745

so im adulting na po hehe first year college na and im looking for a place to stay since sa manila univ ko. i currently have two options na inapproved ng kuya at mama ko.

first option:
its a condo unit that has a two bedroom room, sa isang room there is a one bunk bed and sa kabilang room same rin. we have our own table to study kahit medj dikit dikit, and in total 4 kami dun and puro kami babae.

second option:
its a solo dorm, i have my own personal room pero shared ang cr.

my thoughts: (pros)

first option would be nice because magkakaroon agad ako ng kakilala and ka close sa same univ na pupuntahan ko so it would be nice na i might already have some friends, i also can ask for an advice since senior na sila about sa mga studies etc. and may gym and pool yung condo so ganda din ng amenities, last ay sa isang room dalawa lang kami so its not siksikan

second option would also be nice kasi i have my own room, my own space and i can do whatever i want.

(cons)

first option down side ay i would not have any personal space since it is important to me din since nasanay ako na mag isa sa kuwarto ko sa bahay pero its college, i have to adjust and change. and worry ko lang din ay like yung space if kulang pa para sa clothes ko or other gamit etc.

second option ay in short baka wala ako maging ka close or kakilala agad sa college life ko. yes, i have my own space sa dorm pero the exchange baka i wont make life time friends etc.

sorry po if napahaba! its my first time to live on my own so it would be nice if may advice po kayo sakin! im open to hearing your opinion and advices

hello, everyone! yep the title is right, “my ex bf is obsessed to me”. I’ll give a short info about us, im his first girlfriend, first s**, first makilala ng family niya, first sa lahat. we lasted for 5 months and we are now on our 3 month break.

we still talk to each other, meetup and casual stuffs. panay libre pa rin siya ng foods sakin and makeups etc. however, i already tried a bunch of times setting up a boundary kasi may utang pa siya sakin so i said sa imess or email na lang mag usap but he wont agree.

sa two months ng three months ayaw niya parin ako tigilan even if sinabi ko na problems ko, na ayaw ko na talaga, mag balikan na ng gamit, etc. (the usual stuff pag nag break up na). pero ayaw niya parin sabi masusulusyunan naman daw, still trying to make me happy by buying me stuffs.

then on our second week of two months, may sinabi ako sa kaniya na if ginawa niya to ay babalik ako, i know its my fault din sinabi ko sa kaniya pero i didnt expect na may nangyayari na about sa sinabi ko na gawin niya.

additional lang! i tried blocking him ilan beses na pero he keeps on reaching me out sa reddit, mess, imess, email, tiktok and tg. even msg my sister onced kasi i wont reply and kung ano ano pinagsasabi sa ate ko. if i said na i’ll block him he will threat me na msg niya whole family ko. furthermore, dun sa sinabi ko na gawin niya i said to him pag nakapasok na ako sasabihin ko single ako dun tapos sabi niya sakin try ko daw gawin yun at hindi ako makakalabas sa pinasukan ko at kung ano ano daw gagawin sakin na di ako uusad, di ako makakapag finish, like power tripping kasi may connections siya and im scared na he might actually do it.

sorry napahaba! pero just wanna ask panong gagawin ko? how do i make him stop? etc?