[21M] Need advice about balancing love, attraction, and long-term compatibility with [23F]
I’m a 21-year-old guy and I’ve been seeing a girl for a few dates now. Emotionally, she’s probably the healthiest and most caring connection I’ve ever had. She’s patient, consistent, affectionate, and I genuinely love being around her. I’m physically attracted to her too.
My conflict is that I’ve become more fitness and health conscious after struggling with weight myself, and I’m worried about long-term lifestyle compatibility because she gets winded easily and has mentioned having an unhealthy relationship with food in the past. I care about her deeply, so my concern comes from fear and wanting a healthy future together, not from disgust or trying to shame her.
At the same time, I’m inexperienced in relationships and I know some of my anxiety comes from grief, insecurity, and overthinking. I’m trying to figure out whether I’m overanalyzing a genuinely good relationship because I’m scared, or whether these are legitimate long-term concerns I shouldn’t ignore.
Has anyone been in a similar situation where emotional compatibility was extremely strong, but lifestyle/health compatibility created anxiety?