Is the relationship between my bf and his family concerning?
TL;DR I’ve been with him for 6 months and already there has been so many situations that have been weird.
She is 27 about to turn 28 & he is 19 & they share a room. He has all his stuff in a closet by the living room but sleep in the room with her.
The first few months she would always have to tag along on our dates no matter what. Ntm, they would constantly be arguing. I eventually said something because it was a boundary I wanted to set. I don’t mind going out with her every now and then but it became regular.
There has been multiple occasions where she is upset that we are doing so much as giving each other a peck. She will literally throw a tantrum.
There was a night where we all went out to a party & he was drunk & peed outside the car when we were leaving. I saw people walking by so I stood next to him facing the opposite direction to cover him. She got so angry she was yelling inside the car and even rolled her window down to begin yelling at him.
Every time he is with me her & her mom blow up his phone for him to take his sister somewhere. Mind you his parents are home to do so if it is really that urgent.
His mom also always calls him and texts him excessively when he is with me. When he picks up the phone she is yelling and cursing at him. Sure moms worry but to already be yelling without reason is not okay to me.
His sister has gotten very upset when I come over. If I’m there she will begin throwing things and yells at my bf for any reason she can think of. Any time I come over I stay in the living room out of respect & instead of her going to her room, she stays right there next to us on the couch. I have stopped coming over for this reason and my bf gets very upset with me about it.
His mom has also made weird comments in front of me when he isn’t around & I’ve told him about it but he defends her. Any time I talk to him about it, he’s made it seem like I’m the one doing something wrong.
I’ve always put my part with his family in general, I regularly brought his mom flowers or any small gestures I thought were nice & would ask his sister to hangout. I wanted a good relationship with them from the beginning but that has never been reciprocated.
He enables this behavior and it is driving me crazy that he sees nothing wrong with this. I’m not sure if they’re all just possessive over him in general but I don’t know what to do?