My girlfriend casually told me she used to record sex with previous partners and now I feel weird about it
I (29M) have been dating my girlfriend (26F) for about 6 months. The other day she asked if I’d ever want to record ourselves during sex. That led to a conversation where she mentioned that she had done it before with previous partners.
She told me that at one point she hooked up with a married couple and that the wife would record videos of her having sex with the husband. She talked about it pretty casually and also mentioned there were videos with other people too. Apparently she still has some of those videos on her phone.
I know this probably sounds immature or insecure, but hearing all of this really bothered me. It’s not even just the fact that she did it — it’s more the idea that other people still have explicit videos of my girlfriend and could potentially watch them whenever they want. The whole “unicorn” situation and how casually she talked about it also threw me off.
I didn’t ask for many details because honestly I didn’t know how to react in the moment. I really like her, respect her, and overall I think we’re a great match. But this conversation has been stuck in my head ever since and I can’t fully explain why it makes me feel so uncomfortable.
I’m not judging her for having a past, but I’m struggling with how to process this emotionally. Part of me wonders if I should ask more questions, and another part of me feels like that’ll just make me feel worse.
Has anyone dealt with something similar? How would you approach this conversation without sounding controlling or judgmental?
TL;DR: Girlfriend casually told me she recorded sex with previous partners, including a married couple she hooked up with, and that some videos still exist. I really like her, but the situation makes me uncomfortable and I’m not sure how to process it or talk about it.