How to you handle being around toxic family
Sooo my parents are dependent on me and my brother. Like financially and everything in between. This is down to mostly poor life and financial planning. So they live with my brother most of the time and I take them sometimes for extended periods of time. Culturally I think the life plan was to depend on their kids for retirement. I've accepted this because what else can I do. They are also just idk lazy and don't contribute to anything around the house. So its like taking care of 2 more kids. They are older but are capable of doing more than they do. My brother realizes this but coddles this behavior. I'm stuck in between and battle between doing my duties as a child and sister but also realizing how toxically imeshed this family is. It's suffocating. I feel like my brother tries to overcompensate for lost childhood or something and that's his own journey. I find it hard to set boundaries because they aren't respected and more over ridiculed. I struggle with the daily guilt and changing my mindset. I know what I'm asking for and expecting is reasonable but I have to keep convincing myself internally that setting boundaries and protecting my peace and my own husband's and kids peace is more important.