Is this a Scam marriage?
A friend of mine is very shy with women. Some of his friends made him a Tinder account and started messaging a girl while pretending to be him. He was physically with them and approving/denying what they wrote, but he was not the one actually writing the messages.
Eventually, he met the girl in person. She realized pretty quickly that he wasn’t the one who had been messaging her, but she said it was okay and they continued talking.
About 6 months later, they got legally married (Note that this was technically his first girlfriend) . The issue is that he lives in France and she lives in Morocco, so it’s basically a long-distance marriage. They see each other from time to time, either him going there or her coming to France.
They are legally married, but she told him that for her, it is not a “real” marriage yet because they haven’t had the public/traditional wedding. Because of that, she does not want to consummate the marriage until after the real wedding. The immigration process for her to come to France will probably only be done sometime in 2027, so by then they may have been legally married for around 2 years without sex.
When he asked why she didn’t want to consummate before the wedding, she said she was afraid of getting pregnant and being pregnant at the wedding. He told her pregnancy can be avoided, but she still doesn’t want to take the risk.
For the legal mohr he already gave her around €1,200 and about €2,000 worth of gold, including jewelry.
Now there is also supposed to be a bigger wedding later. Both of them originally didn’t really want a big wedding, but apparently her mother said it was not optional and they need to do it. This was a surprise to him because he is not doing great financially and wanted to save money for when she eventually comes to France and has to look for work. He is expected to contribute around €4,000 to the wedding.
On top of that, she also told him that for the wedding, she would need more gifts to display in front of people ( Even though he already gave her before ? )
Financially, she is actually doing better than him. So it’s not like she has no money. But he still seems to be the one expected to pay for trips, wedding costs, gifts, and appearances because he is the husband/man.
So what do you guys think?