u/Hot-Principle3837

Throw away because I’ve never personally used Reddit. TW abuse. My mom was married to my father for 22 years my dad was an alcoholic and would get violent with my mom all the way up till their divorce. She understandably has trauma from it but has been pushing that into my relationship with my husband since we started dating. I believe her issues started with how large he is, he’s 6’5 and was nearly 400 pounds so a large man by all accounts. When she first met him she texted me after we left her house about how he could seriously injure me if he wanted to and I needed to be careful not to make him angry. My husband has never been anything but a huge snuggly bear I don’t see him hurting anyone. Then she learned he has a kid from his previous relationship and she started in on me about that. She would talk about why him and his ex broke up and why he wouldn’t stay with the mother of his children and how she waited till my little brother was 18 before leaving my dad because any good person stays with the other parent of their children no matter what happens. When I got pregnant with my child she started telling me he was going to divorce me before our kid was even born because that’s just the type of person he is. My husband started dieting and working out to lose weight about a year ago, and I’ve dreaded telling my mom about it because I know what’s going to come out of her mouth. She can never be happy for anything my husband does, he has lost 150 pounds and can actually play with our 2 year old without having to stop every 10 steps to breathe. She recently found out and started telling me that he isn’t doing this for me or my child but for his mistress and is going to divorce me as soon as he’s under 200 pounds because I won’t be good enough for him anymore. I’m tired of all her nonsense and just want to cut her off but then I feel guilty because everytime I’ve tried to set boundaries before she brings up all the stuff she went through with my dad just to give me a complete family and how its just throwing all that suffering for me back in her face. I just want to cut her off or set boundaries without her guilting me into letting her do and say whatever about my husband or me.