told someone they were invited to my wedding before they were engaged, now I don’t want to invite them
I (27f) got engaged this January 2026 but the summer before that, July 2025, I went on a camping trip with three friends from high school. One of those people, I’ll call her Lacy, I am very close to and the other two are closer to Lacy than they are to me but we were all friends in high school (again, not super close but definitely very friendly) and had fun seeing each other. At the time, I was aware of my likely engagement timeline and this ended up coming up. One of the girls I’m not as close to, we’ll call her Kat, asked if she could be a plus one for Lacy and i responded like plus one? you’ll get your own invite! At the time, I didn’t know that much about wedding planning or in reality how fast the guest list can fill up. I also didn’t know how small my wedding was going to be, which is now on the smaller side of 120 (capped due to venue and it’s an on site full weekend). My partner and I also both have very big families and lots of family friends who had a big role in raising us that take up a portion of the guest list. I mentioned recently to Lacy that I have Kat on my maybe list and she looked shocked and said well Kat thinks she’s coming to your wedding. I went through Kat and my text messages and we have a very short history of talking and she never messaged me to congratulate me about getting engaged. I haven’t made an Instagram post or anything public, but I know she knows through Lacy, especially if they’ve talked about the fact that she thinks she’s invited. Do I have to invite her? Should I reach out and say anything to her?
edit: okay these responses are really helpful. I think the 2 things I was caught up on was the fact that we don’t really have a relationship separate from our tie through Lacy and that my wedding is now going to be a lot smaller than when I made that comment and before I knew as much about Weddings. I think what I’m getting at is although its my wedding and ultimately my decision, it would be rude to go back on this even though it was word of mouth.